| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: I broke up with my ex about two months ago and we hadn't talked for about 3 weeks because I told him to leave me alone on several occasions. Then, he texted me last night saying he wishes me well. Then, I texted him back to say I was sorry for the last hurtful things I said to him because he treated me like crap in our relationship. I also wished him well. Then he said I was a total sweetie this morning. I didn't respond and just about an hour ago he texted me about one of our funny memories. Anyway, I didn't respond and don't want to because I'm trying to get on with my life and forget him. Is he still hung up on me or is he totally recovered and feeling comfortable talking to me like we are friends again? Even though I don't want him to call me anymore, I do miss it when I don't hear from him in awhile. But, if he is completely over me I think I will be devastated! Also, right after I broke up with him and didn't answer his many calls he texted my sister saying that I must be taking it very hard because I'm not answering him. What?! I just want to know if he is still in to me and that's why he keeps contacting me, or he is over me? And how can I get over him if he is still contacting me?
View related questions:
broke up, my ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, cristin343  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 it seems very obvious that he is still holding onto the hope that you are going to change your mind and come back to him. You will know for sure when you are straight with him and tell him that you are not interested at all in becoming romantic ever again. He will probably change his tune, and be angry with you for ruining his hopes.
A
female
reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (30 November 2007):
 I agree with the first person, ask him his intentions, but if he wants to keep playing games, like making it look like you're the one who is still hung up, then I wouldn't bother.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): I am in exactly the same position, exept its been a longer split. I know how frustrating it is. I agree with the last answer, you need to get out of him, why he is doing this. Why cant he let go? and ask yourself do you truly want to move on? You seem stronger than what I am, as I keep going round in circles! dont let that happen, dont let it drag out. Know what you want, find out what he wants, and go from there.
Good luck.x
...............................
A
female
reader, dearkelja +, writes (30 November 2007):
 How old is this man? Did he break up with you or did you break up with him. If you broke up with him it seems like he still is not over you and is hoping you'll reconsider. If he broke up with you then I think on some level he is interested. If he was mature about things he would let you be realizing that you need space. By not responding to his calls and texts you have given him a clear indication that you are trying to move on.
Depending on his maturity (under 30 probably not so mature) level it is possible that he wants you to feel bad (which will stroke his ego) and just can't get over your reaction-which I think (your reaction) is very mature.
If you are interested in getting back with him I think you need to call him and ask what his intentions are. Why can't he just let you get on with your life, etc? He may or may not put his cards on the table. If you do want to be friends later on (not is not the time) then tell him you need more space.
...............................
|
