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anonymous
writes:I dated my girlfriend for 9 months. The last few months things got rocky, she was jealous of me spending time with my best friend (a girl) and all the rumors that were spread around about it. So she broke up with me, yet she still had very strong feelings fore me, and decided to ignore me in order to move on. However, we worked at the same summer camp all summer and we ended up hooking up and getting together. Not dating, but together. She told me she was happy and had feelings for me and wanted to continue after the summer. So we did just that for about a week, when out of the blue she started ignoring me again. I think she is ignoring me because she is afraid of her emotions and letting me back in again... She is really good at ignoring people, but how do I get her to talk to me and get her over these fears?
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (6 September 2009):
 I hate to say this but trust is the cornerstone of every relationship. If she doesn't trust you because your best friend is a female, then she's never going to be comfortable with you.
The other problem is, women who are capable of ignoring the people they love are frankly some of the most difficult people I have ever met. I say that as a generalization only. But if she's good at ignoring you then she's good at manipulating you.
I would have to say its her loss. If she wants you bad enough, she will change her behavior towards you and your friends and accept the fact that there's a friend out there who's female and that's it. Frankly, she sounds like she's making too big a deal out of it.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (6 September 2009):
 Make it clear that you are not interested in your best friend in that way, and that you want her, and your there for her if she needs to talk, this may not trigger her to tell you everything straight away. But over time she will trust you
Hope i helped
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