So I am moving away from my boyfriend permanently and he ignores me a lot and gets mad easily. I understand that he is upset about it, but he will not communicate how he feels. I ask him how he feels about the situation and he says that he loves me the same way and that I am being too emotional about the whole thing. (I've been crying a lot the past month about moving away) and I feel like he's hiding his emotions from me and taking it out on me. I have to really try hard not to take it personal, but he is my first love. What can I do to make this separation easier for the both of us? I am leaving in about 2 weeks now. We are best friends and I feel like we will always be in each others lives in some way, so what is the best way to go about this situation, and what steps should I take in the future with his friendship? I want to deal with this as maturely as possible...
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reader, aunt honesty + ♥, writes (7 October 2011):I take it your boyfriend doesn't handle emotional stuff very well, instead of being emotional and showing you he cares he is pushing you away and trying to pretend that it is not a big deal and that you are over reacting. I guess there is not a lot that you can do hear but to make the most of your last couple of weeks together. Have you both sat down and discussed what this means for your relationship once you are gone? Off course it is going to be a hard time for the both of you, but instead of being upset all the time just try and be happy and make the most of the time you have together. Do some fun things and spend some quality time together. Live for the moment and try not to worry about moving away until it comes to the day you need to go.
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reader, KlassyKirsty + ♥, writes (7 October 2011):If you are moving away permanatly, he and you both know that the relationship will be very difficult to maintain. He is refusing to communicate or express how he feels due to the fact that this is equally as hard for him as it is for u. He may feel a little under pressure to express how he feels, so he deals with it in his own way more effectively. This is the con side of moving away. But i can rest assure you that there is a pro side of this what may seem lyke all doom and gloom now. Every cloud does have a silver lining, so you will be meeting a wide diversity of people :) initially, the pain and longing for him will be at it's strongest, but it will improve dramatically as time goes on :)The best solution for u is to get adjusted to living in your new area, and if u really do feel that you still want to maintain a friendship with this guy, then do so, but if you end up meeting sumone else, then even better so you do not pine for him excessively :)Good luck xx
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