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writes:I was with him for over a year and a half, and we were deeply committed and in love, and living together. he got very ill about 8 months into our relationship, and i stuck by him for all of the treatment. when the treatments were over, we fell apart. he started questioning how our religious differences (which were never a concern before) would impact our future, and he may possibly have cheated. i broke up with him, but have not been able to get away from him. we've both tried so hard to move on, and keep coming back to eachother. i want to get back together, and everytime i bring it up, he gets upset and tells me he refuses to discuss it bc he's still angry that i broke up with him to begin with. ive given him months of time, and we speak on the phone everyday, but everytime i bring up trying to get back together, he gets mad and clams up. a part of me just wants to let go but i can't seem to let go of hope that we'll end up together. its tearing me up inside, how do i cope?
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reader, Yogichickk +, writes (17 October 2007):
 you need time. Best is to move away from him.You can still talk to him as it helps you cope with the separation. You are probably soul mates...
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 Coping with a break-up is rarely easy to manage. Emotions are obviously still high between you both, so I would suggest some time apart. A few months or so where you'll both be able to clear your heads a little. After that, see how things are. Hopefully you will both be able to communicate better when things have eased, and if this is the case, build conversation back up between you both and see where things take you.
Things can change in such a short space of time, and you never know what's around the corner, so try to keep an open mind.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (17 October 2007):
Tell him you are moving on. Then do not have any contact. If he doesn't change his tune in two months, move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): its hard to give advice on something that i am dealing with only difference is we never really broke up - my guy just left me and a newborn baby behind - he got sick and we were arguing so he left us...... my advice to you is to go day by day - if it is meant to be you two will be back together -- if it isn't meant to be just let it fall
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