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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:How do I confront my girlfriend about an sketchy email she sent to her ex that I discovered? I had a feeling my girlfriend was talking to her ex so I checked her email on her phone and sure enough there was a email sent to him. It really struck home because in it she said that she thinks she will end up with him and right now she just can't give him 100% so thats why she is not with him right now(basically to me that means if we don't work out she will say that now she can give him 100%). She also said things like she has never felt so loved by anyone else and she even talks about her family misses her. So my question is, how can I confront her about this or is there a sneaky way I can just "happen" to need to check her email?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): You were not wrong to check her emails. You would've been taken for a ride if you didn't follow your gut instincts. Send the email to yourself, that way it ends up in her sent mail folder and then claim she must've sent it to you by accident. And there you have it, you'll be free to confront her over this issue and deal with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): It sounds to me like she's keeping him on the hook in case things don't work out with you. A lot of people can't stand to be alone and always want to know someone is waiting in the wings. This is not a nice thing to do, to you or him. You don't say how long you've been dating, or how solid your relationship is, but it doesn't sound like she's putting a lot of stock in having it work out, or she wouldn't be doing this. I would confront her and have it out, even though you'll look like a rat for checking her email. She needs to have a really good explanation for her words to him, or you should find someone else who will be loyal to you. Good luck!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Just tell her that she can't be playing games with your heart ne more and leave it at that. You deserve better.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 December 2008):
You were wrong to check her emails but it is done now.
She's been leading you on and using you as a time filler until she can get back with her ex at a later date.
Tell her you were wrong and you're sorry, but that you check her email and saw what she said.
She'll probably yell at you and I don't think yelling back will do either of you any good. So just remain calm and tell her it's over.
Good Luck!! xx
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