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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have this big jealousy problem and I mea BIG. Its ruining my life. I guess admitting it is the first step to sorting it out but i really need some help and advice on where to go from here.Basically speaking i think jealousy and anxiety were the root cause of why my girlfriend recently split up with me. She says its only partly because of that but i think a big part.I don't know why but i have always been very jealous and insecure and paranoid when it comes to relationships. I'm 25 and i've had 4 relationships of varying lengths. the past two, i have been racked by all this jealous- i mean, being jealous of male friends, etc etc, usual story.I always sort reassurance from these girls, which at first they gave me but obviously they got weary of it.Now my last ex has split up with me, its got even worse. I cant stop thinking about her with other guys, which now she is perfectly intitled to do. But even the thought of her kissing another guy or even just holding hands is enough to make me feel sick.I've found myself texting her to literally ask her if she's met anyone else, etc. I know this isn't good.How do I stop these feelings of jealousy towards my ex (they really are crippling me emotionally)?And I guess more importantly, how do i stop these feelings resurfacing in my next relationship?I have pretty good self-esteem so its not that. I know seeing another girl would help get over the jealousy of my ex but i just dont want to see anyone else in that way.By the way, as far as I know, i've never been cheated on so that cant be a reason for me to be paranoid.please give me any advice, please please.thankyou for reading this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): The root cause of jealousy is FEAR.The fear is that there won't be needs met.
I'm afraid to be ALONE oh no what shall I ever do?
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