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*issy02
writes:i was in a relationship for a year with a guy that i was sure i was going to marry.we were talking about getting engaged and looking at rings and everything.well,about 6 months into the relationship,we started arguing about different issues,mostly about my daughter(who is not his and he has no kids).he started ignoring me and making me feel like i was not important to him anymore.i would try to talk to him about what i saw that was going on but i could never get him to tell me what was on his mind.we were very happy together and then it was like one day he woke up and was like i dont care anymore.we broke up back in september,and we saw each other a few times after the breakup,and he even kissed me and told me he still loved me.well literally 3 weeks after he had told me he still loved me and wanted to be with me,he gets back into another relationship.i dont understand how he could do that,that quick.she has even already met his parents,of whom i didnt meet til around the 3rd month of being together.he has pics of the two of them on fb,and i try to restrain myself from looking but i miss him so much and i still love him,and thats the only way i can see him.i need some advice on this like real bad,because im confused as to why he was so quick to be over me and be with her.this really has me upset.please help
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 November 2011):
 Stop looking at his Facebook.Block him if you can't control yourself, because you are only making it worse for YOU by looking at it.
Secondly, people get over heartbreak in different ways, from what I have seen a lot of men seem to "try and get over" heartbreak through a new relationship or casual sex.
Obviously it didn't work for you too, time to let him go and focus on you and your daughter.
He wasn't a keeper.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (26 November 2011):
 Hi,I know this is not what you want to hear, but you need to be strong, and move forward with your life. He's already in a relationship, and although they have been together in a short period of time, she has already met his family, so I am guessing this is pretty serious?You are only hurting yourself thinking about him. He will never give you the answers you are looking for. Yes, it's crazy, it's hurtful, it's unfair.... Yes, how could he moved on so quickly? It will never make sense, and only he knows what was his intensions with you. The fact that he found someone so soon, proves that he never care about you as much as he made you believe. Actions prove more than words. If he really loved you, even if you are not together, it's impossible to move on so quickly, matter of weeks???? No way!!!! I know it's unfair, I know you want answers.... But, sometimes you have to accept reality, you have no choice here. I am sorry you are in pain, I am sorry if I am not giving you the answers you want, but I am just being honest. Do not think of him anymore, and never contact him again. Do not look at his Facebook, you've seen enough.... It's going to take time, but it will get easier. You need to be strong, for your own sanity. Just know that this is not your fault, and that life is unfair sometimes. You need to take care of yourself, mentally, physically, for you and your lovely daughther. Be strong, and keep positive attitude, in no time you'll find someone that truly deserves you, and will care for you and your daughter. You need to be in clear mind, pleasant, otherwise no good guy will approach you, make sense, right? Good luck/best wishes
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