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writes:Right, me and my mate and her friend (all of us 15) are going to a gig next weekend. The problem is its abour 200 miles away and we'd have to stay overnight on the street. We really want to go and we've planned the train journey and we have the tickets and everything but non of our parents know because they wouldnt let us go if they new. we know we'll have to stay up all night to stay safe but im really scared that something will happen to us. How can we stay safe? x Reply to this Question
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (12 May 2009):
 Talk to them and say how you feel.
Its not a good idea. As i have already written i've done this with my friends and i was with two adult boys and i was so scared.
You won't enjoy yourself because you will keep thinking what if something happens?, what if my parents find out? It won't work. Look the the Premier Inn. £55 a room.
My experience with doing something like this wasn't very good. I went to the loo and on my way a man tried to grab me and pulled at my skirt. I was so scared i sat in the toilet and was so scared i had to call my boyfriend to come and get me. The night wasn't enjoyable at all.
If you are doing this make sure that you have somewhere to stay or have an adult or a boy with you. 3 girls WILL be an easy target.
You can mail me on here and i can suggest somethings you can do.
Good luck
Livia
xoxox
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 May 2009):
I think you should talk to your mates and tell them that you really really don't want to go but don't want to let them go alone.
They might be as scared as you but not willing to speak up because they think you will go anyway. Find out more about the gig and it probably won't be that good to risk this.
I really really really really would advise you to get them to not go.
It will not be that good a gig, it never is, and I remember doing stupid things like this when I was 14 and I look back now and think about what a waste of time and a huge risk it was.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, jodaii +, writes (12 May 2009):
jodaii is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have looked at hostels and hotels but we just cant afford it. tbh, im scared sh*tless. im petrified something will happen but if i dont go, my other friends will go anyway and it would be even worse with just 2 of them, i cant let that happen. and its a gig for ages 14 upwards and i have tried to get one of my older brothers mates to come with us, but non of them can. im dreading going but i cant just let my mates go on their own...
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (12 May 2009):
 Listen to the older and wiser aunts.
We do not want to scare you - but do you really want to put yourselves at such risk? You are still children - and the fact that you have booked tickets and trains but did not consider paying out for overnight accomodation proves this. Its all about the "FUN" of the gig that you really WANT to go to. Sometimes we cant have what we want because it is dangerous or innapropriate. Did you lie about your age when you booked the tickets? As you are under 16 should you be accompanied by an adult any way?
Consider what could happen.
What happens if someone steals your phone/money/bag? How do you get home?
What happens if you get followed? Mugged? Raped? Abducted?
What happens when the police officer knocks at the door of your house to give your parents bad news that they have found your body? How selfish is that. All for a bit of fun at a gig.
No one knows you have gone. No one knows where you are. By the time people realise you have gone, it could be too late to help you. THINK ABOUT THIS.
What is more important, your safety, or going to a gig?
IF you do go, your parents WILL find out you lied to them.
IF you come home safe, your life will not be fun.
They will not trust you. Any faith they have in you will be gone, and you can bet that you will not be allowed to any other gigs until you are over 18. You will probably be grounded for a long time.
Tell your parents. Grow up. Show your parents you are a responsible adult, NOT A SELFISH IRRESPONSIBLE TEENAGER.
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (11 May 2009):
 There is no way your safe, your not even near your own home, which makes it just as worse. Have you thought of staying at a hotel? If a parent knew you were staying there they could go with you and look after you, or even someone older like an older friend or relative. Gigs are dangerous as it is inside, let alone afterwards. They are usually in rough parts of up town or out of the town centre where you wont know where you are. Theres always someone trying to start a fight or perv on young girls. Please do not go and stay on the streets. Its like digging your own grave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Do your parents know this is happening?! I wouldn't go to this gig it's not worth being mugged in the night surely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Hostels? in the area
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (11 May 2009):
I did this not to long ago but we had a car to stay in so we were a little more safe than you guys will be.
I was still scared when i did this and we had two boys over 18 with us. When it gets dark the world is a whole different place. Whenever i stay out all night i tell myself theres nothing to worry about but i've had people follow me and trying to grab me and believe me that is so scary when your on you own.
Three 15yr old girls are going to be an easy target for people. There are lots of things that can happen to you and there is no way you can be completely safe.
Either stay at home or get a boy to go with you because girls on there own are an easy target. Just think if something goes wrong you are 200 miles from home and your parents don't know where you are. If something happens to you, social services will be called on your parents for not looking after you properly.
Good luck
Livia
xoxox
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 May 2009):
There is no way to stay safe.
If you wander about you could get attacked. Most big venues are in the middle of no where.
If the police see you they will pick you up and call your parents.
If you are going to do stupid things like this then you have to accept that you put your life at risk.
Your best bet is to hang around the train station as at least there will be CCTV there. They might call the police to get you moved on as well but at least if some guy with a knife comes and takes your bags / phones / money then there will be some chance that they can catch him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Stay home you are way to young immature and your parents dont know. Yeah sounds like a great idea, stay on the street get attacked and cry why me? My gosh kids these days!
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