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reader, cherelle  +, writes (29 March 2010):
if she made her mind up then she probably means it.
To you shes being heartless but you dont know how long shes not wanted to be with you, so shes had maybe 6 months/3months of wanting to get out and meet other guys....so as soon as she did...she went for it...and seeing as you only just found out...your only just being able to deal with it.
'couldnt' is code for ...'i dont want too' ....so dont push her..i think u need to try and move on and look forward now and IF she comes back...great...u can made ur choice when it comes to it..but if she doesnt then ut already moving on and becoming a stronger person.x
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reader, lawguy170  +, writes (29 March 2010):
lawguy170 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI already tried to get her back and she "couldn't". It's been over three months. Try seem to be happy so I don't think I could get her back! I would def. Consider it if I thought it was possible but right now I am just trying to move on with my own life
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): Bottom line, this new man is a rebound that she is using as a quick fix. (Been there, done that)
You could get her back if you wanted to.
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reader, lawguy170 +, writes (23 March 2010):
lawguy170 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh ya and when I say almost immediately I mean days after our breakup
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 It is obvious that you loved her more than she loved you .Different people have different stress levels.
Probably, she adapted better to the breakup than you and unfortunately for you someone came into her picture.
Sometimes, they missed the togetherness and fearful of being alone.Dating again will shift the focus from the separation and the pain .
It could be a rebound or a band aid for her pains.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): I think it depends on your situation. If you dated that long, and she turned around immediately, chances are she still may feel the same way about you. She may have started dating someone else in hopes of getting past the pain and waiting to feel a different way. This guy is a rebound, especially if you were that serious for so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): Unfortunately the same thing happened to me. I separated from my husband for 9 months because of the way he treated me. A long story that I wont get into. I was totally devastated without him , but he fell in love with another woman a month after we separated. Unfortunately for both of us, I think that when you love someone for real that does not happen. Personally I think people stay in a relationship just because nothing "better" has come around. It very very painful. I know how you feel and I am so sorry you are going thru this.
Have faith and patience, there is someone that truly deserves you out there!
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reader, defeated  +, writes (6 March 2010):
its either a rebound or someone she was seeing on the side
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 March 2010):
It's more likely this new guy is a rebound. Poor guy. He'll end up dumped too.
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