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writes: i am 18 and my boyfriend is 28. i know it is a large difference but im so in love, he is everything i want in a partner but the problem is my father is going to be so angry when i tell him. we have been together 2 months now, but i know my father would not aprove, how can i tell him or prepare him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): Why would your father be angry? If you were with a young male then the chances the relationship wouldnt work.The older male is ready to commit and take care of you,seen the world a bit and has a steady job,would make a excellent husband.If your dad is angry say why? Hes so good to me and dad you want the best for me...hug xx
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reader, miss nancy +, writes (6 November 2006):
 You are 18, you don't need your fathers aprovement, my sister was 16 when she fell in love with her boyfriend who was 26 she is now 21 and they are still together and happy, and even though my mother was shocked at first she didn't say anything because my sister was in love, and she could see that, so maybe your father is the same? let him meet your boyfriend, but say he is a mate and let your dad get to know him, and then break the news to him slowly, let him know you are in love he will understand, your dad loves you, and still looks at you like you are still his little girl, show him you arn't, he'll soon understand!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (5 November 2006):
 My parents don't approve of my age-gap marriage so you have my sympathies! All I would suggest is to be open and honest - it is a sign to your father that you are indeed mature enough to handle the relationship. His anger will just be his way of showing concern and love for his daughter - Dad's tend to be protective of their daughters and he may think your man is just stringing you along...perhaps you ought to arrange for them to meet sometime as that may allay his fears.
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reader, msel2304 +, writes (5 November 2006):
 Well my first reaction was that guy is robbin the craddle. But, taking in the large picture, if you really care about him and he cares about you the same then your dad will either try to understand the feelings that you both share for each other. And you can't be 100% sure what his reaction will be like. Your his daughter and he doesn't want to ever lose you. Lay it out on the line, introduce him to your father after you have told him the age difference of course. And let him see for his self just how wonderful your guy really is.
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reader, b3x +, writes (5 November 2006):
 I'm 19, my boyfriend of 2 years is 38 (mental age of about 15 though)
My Pops, is super cool with it, you know why? It's because, my dad knows he loves me, looks after me, would do anything for me and most of all protect me, if he does everything you dad does then it'll be ok!
Just introduce them and say nothing about the age, tell him when you dad asks you about it, if he doesn't ask, it doesn't bother him! Don't worry about it, your parents will stick by you, mine did and they love my fella! Good Luck babes, but just introduce them, don't mention the age thing until it becomes a matter! Enjoy your new guy as much as you can xx
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