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*tarisrocks
writes:on sunday my bf dumped me saying that he doesnt love me but we only been together 6 months so love is not important at this stage in the relationship. he had a few problems before with his nan having a stroke and his brother breaking up with his fiancee and coming back home. he cried when i reminded him of all the good times and told me i was making it harder to leave me when he thinks of that. before he left mine we hugged and he kissed me goodbye but then went back and kissed me 3 more times. i saw when he got into the taxi he cuddled up to his coat which i was wearing a few mins before. how can i see if he wants to try i again and when should i try coz i want to give it time so he can miss me.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (16 October 2009):
 Well at least you know what he is like, you are young you will meet better than him you take care.
Gina
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (16 October 2009):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry too so long for a update found out he left me because he was sleeping with one of my friends the got a sti off another girl he cheated on my exfriend with So turned out he was scum
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (23 December 2008):
He has had two things in his family happen to him which i would have thought he would have turned to you more for comfort rather than dump you? but he is saying he does'nt love you and most probably does'nt know what he wants at this stage i think his head has been full of the family problems and maybe a relationship for him right now won't work so i would give him some time to clear his head maybe by that time his family problems will get better and when he is in a better frame of mind then maybe he will have a change of heart but bear in mind he has let you go and it might also be he just does not want to committ sorry babes but sometimes these things happen and when they do it is devastating especially if we have had strong feelings for them more than they us! wait till after the festive period is over and see what happens then take care.
Gina
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reader, ShanL  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 By leaving the situation alone for some time. He still care for you and by you giving him time and space to think about what he really want, he'll realize what he lost and will want it back! I understand that you care too, but time apart is time well spent because when you two get bak together you won't have too many problems......JUST GIVE IT TIME!!!
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reader, Spanner28 +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Personally, i think his reason for leaving you is extremely poor so dont feel upset about that issue. Men are funny creatures, if they become too emotionally attached to a girl, they will pull away for a while to regain their 'manlyhood' BUT they will come back.
I have read the book "Men are From mars, women are from venus" and i recommend you do too. It has a chapter about men and why they do this, it is described as being like an elastic band. Basically when an elastic band isnt being stretched, you could say it was comfortable like being with you BUT it needs to restretch itself to reform its shape, this is when a man starts to back away from you but think of when an elastic band can stretch no more..what happens? It has to bounce back and that is exactly what your boyfriend will do.
Dont lose hope. Men need copious amounts of space to deal with heavy emotions, the best way to get him to miss and return to you is to give him that. Be strong and think of the elastic band, trust me
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reader, nokutenda  + ♥, writes (23 December 2008):
give him his space for the meantime,let him miss you
find something to do to keep you busy,don't call or text him
even when he wants to see you don't be available,
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