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*henightmarebeforechristmas
writes:well me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half now and i love him and our sex life is fantastic as he is the first partner i have had that has made me orgasm in anyway, i can orgasm easily through oral sex and also when we do doggy and i rub my clitoris. my boyfriend is very understanding of the fact that i can't orgasm through penetrative sex alone and is always happy to do whatever he can to pleasure me but for myself personally i would really like to be able to orgasm from just penetrative sex so does anybody have any advice?would be very appreciated, thanks :)
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reader, shoebazar  +, writes (12 October 2014):
You may try using a vibratory which is an up down vibratory and insert it in the vagina.
The vibrator lasts longer than the man and won't finish off before u and leave u high and dry.
Purely using the vibrator try to orgasm by guiding it to your g spot.
Don't use the rabbit on the clitoris.
If u can orgasm this way vaginally then u can have a vaginal orgasm.
If u can't then accept that like most women u may not be able to orgasm thru vagina and if so clitoris is only way for u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2012): Just stimulate your clitoris during sex, easy as that. Use you fingers, a vibrator or let him use those on you. Try different positions to see if you can get it rubbing.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 August 2012):
 I'll elaborate a bit. The clitoris is located about 1-1/2 to 2 inches above the vaginal opening. Therefore, penile penetration alone is unlikely to stimulate the clitoris very much. With some women it may, I don't know. But typically, the clitoris is away from most of the activity. One good solution is to manually stimulate the clitoris, using the hand during intercourse, either by the man or herself. It's usually simply a matter of gently rubbing.
The woman-on-top position allows her to adjust enough to often facilitate more stimulation, by pressing down against the man's upper groin area, especially if he responds by thrusting upward. That can bring about orgasm.
There is an old terminology called "grinding," which may also prove effective. In most any forward position, the woman can "grind" her clit against her partner, kind of rotating somewhat during intercourse. So, all I'll say is that there are ways.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 August 2012):
Few women achieve orgasm from penetrative sex alone, as "person12345" noted. More often, in my experience as a man, the cowgirl or woman-on-top position may work. But also in my experience, I've typically had to provide oral sex in advance to intercourse in order to please a woman. My opinion is that, if oral is what it takes, then so be it. Whatever works.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 August 2012):
 Does your boyfriend feel like he needs to orgasm from stimulating his scrotum and only his scrotum? Then why do you feel a need to orgasm from penetration alone? Women really don't have nerve endings in our vaginas. It's definitely NOT a pleasure organ. Very few women can orgasm from penetration (only around 25%) and with only a few exceptions, it's still a clitoral orgasm, just an indirect one.
You sound like you have a great sex life and like you have a much easier time orgasming than a lot of women. If you can have one by rubbing yourself during sex, then that is fantastic and more than a lot of women can achieve. Your clitoris is your pleasure organ. Being upset that you can't orgasm from your vagina is a bit like being upset that you can't eat with your nose. Your clitoris is meant for orgasms, it's your main pleasure center and it sounds like you know what to do with it, sounds like everything is good! Stop worrying about it so much because a "vaginal orgasm" is not the gold standard. There is no such thing.
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