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writes:My boyfriend of one year always makes love to me twice or thrice per week and says am good. The only problem is we've been using the same style and i would like to make him feel good like he always does to me. What do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 Hi there, sweetness!
So, you want to spice things up. I have a few suggestions that could knock your sex life to the moon! So, if you're dying to be adventurous, read further.
Firstly, you have to keep a totally open mind and be ready to laugh. Sometimes things don't work. Sometimes you're looking at a diagram of a position and thinking "umm... how the hell is this going to work?" - but, if you have a good attitude and you're both just having fun, then it won't get awkward.
Secondly, I find it's best to try new things after you take a shower. Why? I don't know. I just like to be super, super clean. Usually I like to invite my man into the shower and we get steamy beforehand. We get nice and clean... and then we get dirty.
Now, I recommend going to a bookstore and snagging yourself a copy of the "Cosmo Sutra". You can find it pretty much anywhere, but you can also order it off Amazon.com (for $12.95, cheap!!). That will give you not 1, not 2, but 77 awesome new positions to try!
If you're looking to accessorize your sex life, I suggest picking up a silk scarf. This is great for beginners, because it is so easy to use and so versatile! Tie each other up with it (lightly), or blindfold each other. This makes things so much hotter... some might say "tantalizing". Another fun accessory is a vibrator - even for him! Trust me, he'll be lovin' the buzz in no time. Go to a toy shop together! They can be so much fun to poke through.
As for getting dressed, oh my God you have so many options. the aunts have given some great dress up ideas... some killer heels can be SUPER sexy - especially if they're the only thing you have on. Fishnets are also deliciously sexy. Maybe go for it and buy a whole outfit - you can't go wrong with the French Maid or the Nurse. Both sexy, both easy to find.
Anyhow, I guess those are good first steps. The most important thing is that you both are having fun and keeping open minds - but if either of you get uncomfortable, be comfortable enough with each other to back off a move.
Good luck!! Have a BLAST, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 there are so many things you can do to spice up your sex life!! different positions is a starters. why not buy some sexy lingerie or a hot maid outfit or something?!! he will go mental wen he sees you!! another thing to do is - if he lives alone or you know he is home alone, get dressed into your hottest underwear, throw on a coat and some killer heels and call over - he'll get so excited that he wont be able to wait! doing it in different rooms etc can also be enjoyable and using toys can be fun!! using food is a really big turn on too and can be lots o fun ie whipped cream, strawberries etc. if you want some tips on positions and stuff, you can visit sexinfo101.com - its great for tips for pleasing him and her. if you want more advice just email me!! enjoy! xxx
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 For his birthday or something to that effect, get him a gift certificate to a sex shop, and go with him there a few times so that it sparks ideas, and conversation topics.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): You could buy some sexy lingerie or do a bit of role play :] buy a new sex toy, watch some porn together, or introduce new positions - maybe try having sex in a different room/place or standing. Go to a sex shop together, do a strip tease for him, or spend the night giving him loads of oral teasing. Just a few ideas :]
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