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writes:(I'm 17 and my girlfriendf is now 18, we're each other's 1st love)I'm EXTREMELY annoyed with my parents! Why? Simple they keep on saying that S is my "friend" and that I don't love her I only like her -.-, if I liked her why would I give her a HEART necklace -.-, Why would I CUDDLE her? Why would I hold her HAND? I know that they don't believe in love over the internet but... you can find love anywhere, that's one reason why I'm annoyed by them.They also think that F is dating S when they should know that I'm with S, I know they dion't believe in love over the internet but you can find love anywhere, they're telling me that I can't love her after two vists and that I don't know what love is! -.- I've been with her for nearly 11 months, I know that some people don't love their partner at that time but I know that I love her!How can I make them understand?
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reader, Wifeyindistress  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 As a mom I see how they are reacting. But on the other hand I met my husband in highschool and my mom didn't believe that we were in love she said we were just kids and incapable of love. So now we're married with children.. But you do need to start seeing eachother face to face and have some of the intimate part of love. Touch and face to face and spending real time with eachother is necessary for love. Just try to spend real face to face time and then tell your parents that you have been SEEING eachother and that it isn't just online and just stress to them how this person makes you feel In the end its what you feel and how you feel, and how this person makes you feel. Hope this helps.
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reader, LaDiabla13 +, writes (28 October 2010):
Hey it's ok.
People are under the belief that young people really don't understand love, because it's partly true. They think you're very infatuated with your current steady, but nothing more.
Time will only make them see you're serious about it.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Ok, just to try and help you understand your parent's perspective here; yes you can find love anywhere, but the problem is that they are struggling to see how you can be in love over the internet, because an online relationship is only an exchange of words rather than a real, intimate, face to face relationship. All you can do via the internet is talk - through email, through texts, skype....whatever you use, it is just words. And words alone cannot equate to love, because anyone can say things to make someone fall in love - it is actions that speak louder than words. So they are basing your relationship off the 2 times you have met up, and obviously after 2 'dates' you cannot be in love.
I know it must be frustrating as you want them to understand what you are feeling for your girlfriend, but they are of a different generation when the internet did not really exist, and you definitely could not meet a partner over the internet. So try and understand them a little bit - they cannot really help being the way they are because this is how they were brought up.
I dont really think you can try and talk them into understanding, combining young love with it being an online relationship is never going to be particularly believable, even for the most open mided people! As long as you know your in love then that is all that matters - just by staying with her and meeting up when you can, that will show your parents just how much you want to make this work. Actions will speak louder than words in this case for your parents, so just keep on doing what you are doing and eventually they will see that you are serious about each other.
And try not to be so annoyed at them, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and theirs is based upon what they know, there is nothing wrong with that. There will be many people that side with your parents and agree with them, and I do actually agree in a way with them. But that doesnt give you the right to be angry with everyone who doesnt see eye to eye with you, life is like that sometimes and you cant make everyone understand your feelings or agree with you every time.
So prove your love for S by keeping on doing what you are doing, try and see her as much as you can, and cut your parents some slack as they are not being completely unreasonable, they just dont agree with you and that is something you can easily live with if you just learn to accept that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, even if it is different to yours.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Stop caring about what they think. You can't make them understand, and why do you bother with them anyway. How you feel isn't dependant on what they think you feel. In your heart you know what is right.
But, anyone can give someone a heart necklace without it meaning anything at all, so if that is the argument you use I can understand your parents. Love is not about cuddles and holding hands either. But Im not telling you you don't love... Im just saying perhaps you are focusing on the wrong "proof". Those things you mention doesn't mean anything at all as far as love goes.
Try to explain to us on here what you think love is? And then you could try to tell your parents the same. As it is your first love you could find it hard to pin down the exact things that make this feelings of yours love. But give it a shot.
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