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writes: how do i cope? how do i cope my boyfriend is a hypochondriac. For example he has a bump on his head... he thinks its a tumor. He has a cyst in his cheek ... he thinks its a tumor. He has a bowel problem and thought he had cancer. When i get sick he says i might have aids. Or when he gets sick he is paranoid he has aids .When this big maple leaf recall happened he is going crazy about it thinking he is going to die over hot dogs he ate 2 months ago!!! i love him so much and believe me i try to reasure him he does not have anything wrong with him he still freaks out.. how do i deal with it?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 September 2008):
Well that might be the cause of his problems but it's not an excuse to let them continue.
Lots of people's grandparents die. It's part of life.
Tell him to suck it up or you are off.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHEY it's me Him and i had a chat and after forgetting he reminded me that his grand mother was always thinking she was sick and was bed ridden basicly all his childhood Just recently she cried wolf and said she was dieing and then past away he took that better then i thought he would but it was still hard on everyone even though she passed away after all this it still makes me think that maybe he does the same thing by watching her his whole life thinking she was going to die? he didn't have a real big relationship with his grand mother but still watched her be "sick" his whole life
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Hi
He needs some mental health treatment...maybe! to help him.
He must live in a world of fear and i sympathise with him...BUT also with you having this negitivity pushed on you constantly and i hope you are strong enough not to get sucked under the black cloud he has over him. His fear must stem from somewhere either past or future...does he have a fear of death? because this can bring these thought patterns on. Or is he just a negative person in general? be carefull moth to the flame LIGHT AND DARK. you stay positive no matter how much you love him this will help both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Hie there!
Well i think i'll have to agree with the response this other person has given. I think it only makes sense that you force him to go and see a doctor before hand.
What i am saying is that sometimes it is not good to act on assumptions. You claim he is ok, but i believe you are not a doctor by proffesional and it would save both of your time to act and make conclusions on medical facts rather than those mere assumptions you are making.
If you have already gone to the hospital, then i must say you are doing a recommendable job and i would greatly encourage you to apply even more effort. Show him that suffering from that diseasse is not the end of life.
Gud lucky and alittle prayer can help when you are at the "crossroads" in your life.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 August 2008):
I think he needs to get some help. There are plenty of hypochondriac help websites online, or he could speak to a councillor.
The thing is that you have to be tough with him or you are just helping him to cement his pattern of behaviour. Tell him calmly and firmly that he's being stupid and you want a hug rather than to be told you are going to die every time you have period pain.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 August 2008):
 He has health anxiety, its not called hypochondria anymore lol
Tell him to check out no more panic .com. Then he needs to make an appointment with the gp. And get some therapy. Something has triggered it off from his past possibly. A death in the family etc.
Its horrible to have health anxiety, myself and my sister have had it off and on for the past 15 years. It can be a bit of a family thing. But thinking your dying is awful, and very stressful for partners too. But what you can rationalise, he cant. Until the symptom has passed, then he can see it like you do, but it wont stop it happening again. The only thing i will say is, it gets better the older you get funnily enough. You learn to realise you have been here many times before and are still here!
Usually when i have a lot of stress going on in life about other things, is when i have health anxiety less believe it or not.
Makes you wonder if we dont have enough to worry about in life sometimes!
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Give him a kiss in his lips everytime he thinks that and after you make out with him tell him " i did not secnce anything wrong with you i love thay way you are dont worry about it there is nothing wrong with you " then kiss him again. hope i helped
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