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How can I have an orgasm without masturbating during sex?

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Question - (18 February 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 18 February 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, Every time I have sex with my boyfriend the only way I can have and orgasm is when he is in me and I am masturbating and then I feel a good sensation. How can I have an orgasm without masturbating during sex??!! Please answer asap!! thnxx

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (18 February 2008):

Penetration alone can not make you orgasm and infact in some positions it's next to impossible e.g classis missionary.What you are doing is good to help you achieve orgasm because only two spots in/on your body are a source of orgasm when stimulated,clitoris and g-spot and if the position you try isn't hitting either you are less likely to "cum" so you are forced to use your hand.There are many positions i can't describe here that can help you achieve orgasms without using your hands.Free to mail me for further info.

Good Luck.

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A male reader, Namatjira United Kingdom +, writes (18 February 2008):

Hi,

There is nothing wrong with masturbating during sex and in fact many guys get really turned on by their ladies playing with themselves like that when having sex.

It is important that you find out what makes you feel good and what does not. Otherwise how can you help your guy to do what feels best when you are making love?

Keep reading. Keep asking questions? and importantly, keep experimenting yourself.

It is okay.

Cheers

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008):

It's not uncommon for women to need stimuation of the clitoris during sex in order to attain orgasm. There's nothing wrong with you. In fact very few women climax from penetration alone. If you are uncomfortable "masturbating" during sex (I'm sure your boyfriend is NOT... in fact, he probably thinks it's hot!) then find positions where you can rub your clit on him during sex. Cowgirl position allows you to control the amount of rubbing you do. Of course if your bf is a skinny little dude it may be hard to rub on his belly region. Reverse cowgirl works if you're shy because he won't see you rubbing yourself. My current gf mounts my leg before we even get to any penetration. I find it sexy and love when she does that. Hope this helps! TMI?

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (18 February 2008):

DoubleM agony auntThere is nothing wrong with you reaching your fingers down and giving your "button" a rub during coitus (intercourse). If it feels good, do it, and invite your guy to have a rub as well sometimes. This is a technique I've often used to help my lady reach orgasm, and happy to do it.

I do think that you are relatively new to the intricacy of female orgasm. In that case, you need to spend a lot of time here, reading past and present posts dealing with orgasm, intercourse, cunnilingus, fellatio (for males), masturbation, vagina, clitoris, oral and other topics covered extensively. Enter those words, and more, in the search field above right, and educate yourself.

Meanwhile, you have discovered something that works, so go with it ! Enjoy.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (18 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntOrgasm is through stimulation of your clitoris by orals or by hands.

Either you do it yourself or your partner perform it on you.

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