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female
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36-40,
*ovemeright11
writes:I feel like I don't know how to talk to my boyfriend anymore. Every time I talk to him he thinks I'm angry or mad. I'm never actually feeling like this so I don't understand why he always thinks I'm angry. I'm usually just trying to have a normal conversation about things. He has gotten upset like this with me two times today. He keeps telling me that I'm raising my voice and yelling when in-turn it is him who is yelling And raising his voice. So I'm just lost I don't know what I'm supposed to do or how I'm supposed to talk to him? Any advice is helpful. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 February 2013):
 This is actually a really classic thing from sexist men. Anything that comes out of a woman's mouth is too loud, too emotional, too angry. Basically it's his way of "subtly" saying he'd rather you weren't really talking at all.
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reader, Cripes  +, writes (9 February 2013):
Maybe say "I'm really sorry, I don't mean to yell" and see how he responds. It sounds like you're both really stressed out at the moment so are sensitive. Get some distance and go out and do something you enjoy together, than in a happy moment say to him "we seem to both feel like the other is angry at us at the moment, do you think it's because we're stressed?" if you can talk about it in a low-stress situation where neither of you feel sensitive it will be easier. Good luck!
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