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writes:I'm 19 and my boyfriend and I have been dating for a good while now. About 3 weeks ago I gave him a blow job for the first time. Since then I have probably done it three other times. I keep saying I have no idea what I'm doing, I'm horrible because I still feel inexperienced. He says that pretty much anything feels great. I am just insecure about it because I can never tell if he is into it or not even though afterwards I can tell he clearly was. Anyway, my question is for the women. Is there anything I can do during that "activity" to really make him just lose it, mouth wise? In general as well, is there anything I can do that really flusters him in a good way?ANYTHINGGGG would be helpful!Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question"Gabriell Stoker" what do you mean by switching from one move to another? How many moves can there be for giving a blow job? Also, why would guys want their cum to get on you, whats so amazing or "hot" about that?
I'm just trying to learn so thanks for all the help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): I prefer to lay down. That way the woman has control. She can do it her own way. I do like it standing up, buts it's more of a visual thing. Maybe subconsciously it's a dominance thing or the common porn vision. Personally, if a woman is going to go down, it doesn't matter how's it done. It's such a turn on!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Relax, honey. We all had a 'first time' giving head and no one was an expert "right off the bat", as a britsh ex of mine used to say.
First of all, if you're giving him head he probably loves you for that already. Not all guys like exactly the same thing, so it could take some practice before you get to know what he likes. Chances are that right now, even he doesn't have a very good idea of what he likes.
Playing a little with the balls is a good idea. So is taking it all in - guys like that. Trying licking in different motions. Another thing I've found guys usually like is varying what you're doing - instead of repeating the same motion for an extended length of time, you can try switching quickly from one move to another. (However, when he's ready to cum, don't change what you're doing unless he says you should).
And as a post-script, try and see if you like the taste or at least can take it and spit, or even allow him to ejaculate on you. It's just such a huge high when they tremble in your hands and let the cum hit your throat/skin. You may learn to like it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice everyone! I still had some questions from some of the things you all said. "Tyti", when you were talking about the ice did you mean do that before or during? Having just him in my mouth alone is a lot...um, what does cold do for a guy? For "anonymous" I am not ready for him to come in my mouth and he's fine by that, I'm just not comfortbale with it, I feel like I would be one to gag or something. In your opinion is it better for you when you are lying down or sitting up? Lastly, "rivi" thank you for the compliment; I care very much about my boyfriend and we have said from the beginning that we just want to make each other happy. :)
Thank you all again for any responses and all of your responses, it means a lot. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Gently play with his balls while you're doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Depending on the guy's preferences, don't forget about his balls. Put the penis in your mouth and swirl your tongue around it. Push it in and out and occasionally try to take it all the way down. If you suceed in going all the way down, stick your tongue out why down and tongue his balls. If he is too big, use your hand in conjuction with your mouth. Make sure you keep it wet, or it will not be pleasurable for him. While it is in your mouth use your hand to roll his balls (much like those chinese stress balls). If he enjoys it, make the penis wet and stroke it with your hand, then suck one or both balls into your mouth while jacking him off. Guys love to watch and if they are considerate, they will tell you what to do and when they are about to cum. It's up to you whether you swallow or not. Men love for women to swallow. If you cannot do it, but can stand the semen in your mouth, just let it run down the penis and use it to lubricate it.
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reader, rivi +, writes (13 June 2010):
Well if he is not complaining why are you bothered ?
But if you want to vary it try 69 ing : your mouth to his penis and his mouth and tongue to your clit and vag.
I suppose different men like different things but for me being stimulated at both ends of the body is like more than double the pleasure : and yes, of course, let him come in your mouth / over your lips.
He sounds lucky to me to have such an attentive, gf - that's why he's not complaining !
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Well, I love it when my wife concentrates on the head of my penis. It feels the best, and just use your toungue and lick his "head" all over.
The wetter the better. Just put the tip in your mouth, licking his head like crazy and with your hand grabbing from the base of his penis and moving it up and down.
Every now and then, try to put all of it in your mouth. I don't know why but for guys, seeing our women put it all in drives us crazy. My wife can't because she says I'm too big. (her words not mine, but I like hearing them. :)
Oh, and before everything lick his balls first, I love that.
And I don't know how you feel about this but if you let him come in your mouth; you will make him just totally go nuts for you.
Some girls are offended bythis, but others aren't. My wife never gave me head until we were engaged. And never let me come in her mouth until we got married. It was AMAZING!!!
It's not an everyday occurance but when it happens it's awesome. It's just protein. :) lol
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