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36-40,
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writes:My last boyfriend abused me. He was emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive. If i did not want to have sex he kicked me in the chest. Because of that abuse I am having lumps show up in my breast. I am seeing a doctor about the phycially symtoms, how do I get over the mental aspect of the abuse. Another guy has shown an interest in my and I want to go out with him, but I am afraid. How do I get over this and move on with my life?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 I don't know about mental or physical abuse, but I think that you would only need to think that you're finally free. And, be on the alert to prevent abuses from happening again. Not everyone is abusive, dear, but no one is perfect. So just be on the alert for the bad things, and be happy and open to receive the good ones. I'm sure the good ones will be more than the bad ones.
Wish you luck! Be happy, feel happy, and try hard to make this one work. That is the way.
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reader, dr.know +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Honey, this was probably a dark point in your life and I know this had to be very hard for you. I am very proud of you and happy that you decided to get out, it takes alot of courage for a victim of domestic violence to leave their abuser. I know this because I was married to an abuser myself for 2 years, we fought all through my pregnancy. I left feeling down and out, it was the worst time of my young life. It took alot of love and support of my family and friends and alot of self love to get me through. I am now a psychotherapist and I volunteer with domestic violence victims. My advise to you is this, as everyone else has advised, seek professional help, get as much support from your family and friends and by all means take care of yourself first, it took me about 3 years to even think about getting serious with a man, I dated, but I sabotaged ever relationship I was in because I was so afraid of someone hurting me again.You will heal, you will recover, you have made it this far, so that is proof enough that you will be whole again. On some strange level we are participants in the abuse and we have to recognize in ourselves why we allowed this kind of guy in our lives in the first place and why we allowed him to over stay his welcome. As women, we are truly powerful and we have to reclaim our own power within, something I know you will find as you journey back to your true self. Be gentle with yourself and remember to love yourself first....Be Well....Be Free!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): a phyciatrist would probly help u out alot!! and just remember the past is the past, and the future is the future, and the present is a gift so treat it with the up most respect and dont let ur past ruine that......good luck!
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