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*hymexycpl
writes:I am a 46m and me and wifey have stayed at a few swanky hotels to enjoy each other and have long awaited sex sessions due to kids at home.But when we get there it never fails I get real horny and she just wants to cuddle, WTF! So I go down stairs and get in the hot tub with women I dont even know and share my dilema with strangers and they say I should bring her down and join them. In my mind Im game but this seems like a fantasy from my dirty little mind.Im all for it but do you think she will do it or blow me off. I love my wife but we need a BIG spark in our sex life. I am the more active if you couldnt tell by now. How can I get my hunny to enjoy more sexcapades with me.
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reader, shymexycpl +, writes (22 May 2012):
shymexycpl is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all the replys I will put alot of thought in those cuddling sessions but she says I cant cuddle without my thing poking her in backside and that usually throws everything out the window I love her very much and every time it rubs her backside I get too turned on and that usually ruins the moment.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 May 2012):
 I think you need to SIT your wife down and talk to her. I am willing to BET she knows WHY you two are going to a nice hotel for some privacy and "fun".
Warm her up with some cuddling, some Champagne & strawberries or whatever she likes. Woo her, man. THAT is what she is asking for when she says "cuddling" - not "storm off and leave me to myself", because that translate into you not finding her attractive.
Women needs a bit of a warm up when we get "older". And once we ARE warmed up, we need some time to "get" there too, no Wham, bam thanks you ma'am.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 May 2012):
 Wait. How old are the kids? I ask because what she really may be looking forward to is a good night's sleep. Eight uninterrupted hours of blissful, no one is standing next to the bed saying "mommy mommy, emma's fed chocolate to the dog and jacob's just thrown up on the computer and I want pancakes and waffles and scrambled eggs for breakfast, mommy mommy are you still asleep?" kind of sleep.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 May 2012):
 HOW LONG have you and wifey been going through this charade?????
YOU need to learn that "cuddling" is not a put-off... it's a come-on.... and the smart men amongst us take it to be the BEGINNING of some damn hot S*X....
IF you leave the room whilest she is just warming up her engine... then don't be surprised when you can't spin your tires on her pavement......
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 May 2012):
Why don't you simply cuddle with her for a while and give her enough time to get interested? If you leave her to go hang out in the hot tub, you're back at square one, you'll have to start with more cuddling because you went off in a huff.
Give her time to get aroused. That old saying about women are like an oven and men are like blowtorches comes to mind.
The big spark I think you need is the lightbulb going on over your head... she needs more time. You don't. So learn how to get her interested before you even get to the hotel. Then when you are there, book a couples massage, paint her toenails, wash her hair, physically reconnect with her. Woo her. Just because she's your wife doesn't mean she doesn't need some seduction from you.
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