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writes: I really don't know what to do. I think my bf is sly behind my back. I'm up front and honest and yet it takes him ages to tell me stuff, which i consider to be important. Recently he mentioned a conversation he had with his ex over one week ago, yet we spent most of that afternoon together and he didn't say anything then. He text her and gets texts from her because of their two kids but he doesn't tell me about them, i've discovered them (wrongly) by spying on his phone. Something i will never be able to tell him about. I am quite ashamed and wouldn't be chuffed if he did it to me. How can i get him to be more out in the open. Also, i text him about four times per day, we both work full time, and he only text me back once. I feel like i have to push him to get a text out of him. i feel so insecure, yet i was great before i met him. Confident and secure, not now. What do i do? We are supposed to be getting married in six months time.Any advice would be gratefully read.
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reader, SexKitten69  +, writes (27 November 2006):
 Hi, what a situation! I know if youre anything like me talking about emotional stuff and this kind of subject can be hard but sometimes i think you have to bite the bullet.
If i were you i'd sit down and gently ask him about why he didn't find it important to tell you about the text etc. Trust is a big thing in a relationship especially if you are getting married soon, explain to him.
As for texting him four times a day, i would let him stew and ease off a bit.
It's best to find these things out before you marry him and i think the only thing is for you both to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation about how these things make you feel,
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