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female
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30-35,
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writes:I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, and it hasn't even been very long, but I just feel like he puts NO effort into communicating.I set my alarm so I get up super early to talk to him (in his evening, because of the time difference)I send him little notes and care packages, emails, etc, and all he does is ring me or message on skype when he's around. Today I got an email from him saying he'll be out all night and not sure when we can talk next.I feel like even when we where living together, I was the one who put all the effort into our relationship and I'm getting sick of it now..he says that he's serious about us,really loves me, etc, so why does he not act like it?what can I do to make him realize he has to do more?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 stop being the nurturer of the relationship, it seems to me it is all one way, from you to him
Tell him you are getting tired of being the one doing all the work, tell him you would appreciate him discussing with you ways to equal some of the work out, ie, alternate weeks he gets up early rather than you.
I am trying so hard to not be negative about this, but it really doesnt sound good, if he cant extract his finger enough to put in some work this relationship will go nowhere fast.
Maybe the night he is going to be out and not talking to you can be spent deciding if this relationship is really what you want from life.
You are very young (I am not being dismissive here) but you need to get out and experience some life for yourself instead of waiting around for him to click on a mouse key.
I wish you well
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