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writes:How do I get passed the doubts of him cheating?In June of 2007 I found out by my boyfriend's co-worker that he asked another woman to party that he told me was a guys only get together and that he had already met this woman out before and she drove him home. She wrote him a letter that i have found questioning his intentions towards her. She knows about me and still accepted his date offer.I have confronted him on it only to have him tell me that he is just friends with her, she has a boyfriend-the night she met him at the bar, he was with co-workers and she just showed up. He lied to me at first about who drove him home then later admitted it was she.I am plagued now that even though nothing happened between them and how exposive it was when I found out I will admit I didn't handle it well. If he is out there making himself available to other woman how will i know for sure he will not go bragging to his co-workers again who told me.We have been together for 8 years, engaged for 4 years we have children and now this. It is heartbreaking because for the last 7 years have been like a dream never felt like I could not trust him and now i don't know how i can again. Now it is like every story he tells me, in the back of my mind is "is this the truth or is he lying?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Don't ever let him think he can get away with lieing to you ever again. Let him know your trust in him has been coprimised and that you will never give him another chance again. I do believe in a second chance. After that, its not worth the agony.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): I say that a women's intuition is usually the right one. You have been with your husband for 8 years. therefore, you should be able to read him and know deep down if something is wrong. From what I read it sounds as though your husband is either intrigued with this women or some kind of flirting has been going on. I do not feel that their is much that you can do unless you have any proof of infidelity or some clue to what they possible could be disscussing together. You need to look at things on a deeper level and try to fiqure out what is changing in your relationship. Commuincation, finances, attraction and trust. Are you both happy? has there been any stresses in the relationship that you are unable to talk about. Sometime men turn to other women to talk about deeper issues and then something starts to develop. Try talking to him about your concerns in a calm way.
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