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writes:My wife is very rarely turned on.She is a lovely woman. I am age 77 and have been retired for 2 years.She is 69 and a home maker.We go out a lot, but she is rarely interested in any sex play. We have one child together who is married and happy.How can I encourage my wife to be more interested in intimate moments from time to time? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 March 2013):
 If she's never been very interested, it's going to take a lot of time and patience on your part to reconnect her to her body and her sexuality. Hormonal changes may be playing a role here, as well as her overall health. Take her with you to see your doctor and both of you get thorough check ups.
Eat well, walk for exercise and get her into a strength training regimen. You don't have to join a gym, but there are lots of gyms out there with Silver Sneakers programs designed for seniors.
A way to jump start this transformation would be to take her to a retreat at a place like Kripalu in Massachusetts or another wellness center where there is a focus on healthy living, reconnecting body and spirit. Spring for some couples massages and get her back in touch with her feminine side.
We are unlikely to have a magic fix for decades of her lack of libido. Your best bet is to focus on her wellness as well as yours and let her know how intimacy with her makes you feel loved and wanted.
Good luck!
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