A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupids, my perfect boyfriend of about 1 year have one little triat that can drive me crazy most of the times and i get to the piont where i find it so irrespectfull that i do not like him any more and do not want to hear his vioce anymore.When you are busy you can not talk, can not send a messege, or even just leave a missed call as a notification that you are thinking about me. That may seem normal right? But what about some one who is a whole day busy, not repling to my messeges and not answering my phone calls knowing that he is free enough to text and call other people.We talked about it several times, i asked for a simple message saying that i may not be able to reach you for the coming "X" hours for i am busy with 'Y"It is my right to know what ge is doing, knowing that if i forget telling him that i am a feet away from my house he gets so mad he might kill me!lHe says he loves mw that much that he needs to be sure that i am fine all the time and that it is not logic for a man to report his every move to his girl freindIn short, i need to know am i right? Or am i asking really for yhe immpossible? How can i convince him that it is so hurtfull to me to have no idea what is he doing and with who??Thanks for your help! take care!
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (25 June 2013):
 He's not perfect. He sounds controlling. It's one rule for you and another for him, how is that fair? While I do think you should be able to go a day without hearing from him, it is common courtesy to let your partner know you're not going to be available, especially because he expects to know your every move. Also, he "gets so mad he might kill" you? Not good. I understand that it's a figure of speech but he obviously must have a temper for you to say something like that. You know he's being unreasonable but it's difficult to reason with a possessive, controlling person.
If you stay with this guy then you're in for a lifetime of this. And worse. Like I said, he is not perfect. Not even close. It's easy to do but also a big mistake to put someone on a pedestal because you give him the power and you can't see clearly, thus allowing him to manipulate and control you further.
You can either leave him and get on with your own life or you can stay and watch his behaviour get worse until you are in genuine danger. I say go with the first option.
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