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How can I control my libido?

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Question - (23 November 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 November 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I've just divorced and met this guy, seems genuine so I go for him. I am 47 and he is 18 years older than me. Sex with my ex-husband was non existent in the last year before we divorced. This man is 18 years older than me but unbelievably good in bed. The problem is he says I am wanting too much and he finds it stressful and it might ruin our relationship if I carry on like this. I've always loved sex and don't know what to do without it. Please advise.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (23 November 2007):

duskyrowe agony auntAmen to what Uncle Phil says. Let me tell you I am dating a guy who is six years younger than me and I am 40 in December. Sex with a younger guy in my experience is far better than guys who are older. So before I get lynch mobbed by older guys, I am only speaking from experience and not critisising you guys at all ok? Also its not how much sex you have thats important, but how good the sex is. You guys sound like you are having a great time, so enjoy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007):

As we get older, quality is the key, rather than quantity, which would explain why he's unbelievably good in bed. At his age he's no young stud any more and probably can't keep up with you.

If you're looking for quantity as well as quality you'd be better off looking for a fella more your age or younger.

If you're happy to settle for quantity over quality then you need a fella in his early 30's, when men are supposed to be in their prime.

You can't expect an OAP to perform like a teenager!


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A female reader, calamitysil United Kingdom +, writes (23 November 2007):

calamitysil agony auntOh dear, you're at an age where you are peaking, and he's at an age where things slow down! You'll need to reach a compromise if you want things to work out. Maybe you can look into sex toys, mutual masturbation, oral sex as alternatives inbetween?

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