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How can I become more confident around new people?

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Question - (12 April 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 April 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello Agony Aunts,

So, I had a really great boyfriend for two years, but we broke up at the end of last year. I've been having a really hard time getting over him because he is an amazing person and we wanted to stay really close which admittedly has made it more difficult. However, he's now got a girlfriend, we've agreed to stay really close, but I feel like this is the perfect time for me to move on. I've been trying to get him back for the last few months, but I now realise that it most likely isn't going to happen and I feel like now is the time to start a new chapter. I know exactly what I want in a boyfriend and I will know when I find someone I'd like to date however, I'm really quiet and reserved in a situation where I don't know someone very well, and I probably come across as very boring. I'm quite a confident and bubbly person around people I know but the person I like won't like me when I'm initially in my shy and quiet state. I was wondering if anybody can advise me on how to become comfortable around new people and be able to be the bubbly person I know I can be?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012):

Just relax and be yourself, say what you wanna say and do, if they dont like that then they dont fit for you now do they. If you feel you cant do that though, (which im sure you can), go out as much as possible when ever your asked. That increases the chances of meeting someone, as well there is people that can see through shyness and see a unique person in there. I use to be really shy and thats how it happened for me, but i wouldnt wait for that, too many stuck up people nowadays.

Just be yourself and try not to stress about it and enjoy other things in life.

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A female reader, Redbaglover9  +, writes (13 April 2012):

For now, slow down on relationships. Try hanging out with your friends. Don't throw yourself on buys looking for a relationship. Try having some fun. If your having fun, people will like you. Be who you are. Be strong because you've known the loneliness and the feeling of being sad. Just be yourself and hang out with friends. You'll definitely fill a book of wonderful chapters :) good luck! :)

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