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writes:Hi, Both me and my girlfriend are 17 and have been going out for about 1 year and 5 months. I have recently moved in with her and her mum, dad and brother as i didn't get on with my mum. About a week ago she was in a car crash with her auntie, it wasn't too serious, they are both home now. However although her auntie managed to call for the police and amubulance it was extremely hot in the car, none of the windows were open, it was a red hot day and my girlfriend had banged her head and nose really bad in the crash and she had got a nose bleed and eventually fainted before they managed to get there. She woke up later that day in hospital with her wrist in a cast(she had broken it), she was let home the next day. Her auntie was ok and went home that day. She's been home a week now and I'm getting really worried about her! She doesn't really want to talk to anyone only if we speak to her, she's really quiet all the time, looks like she's gonna cry and as if she wants to but is holding it back, everytime I ask if there's anything wrong she says she's fine, she doesn't seem to want to go to anywhere. I think she keeps running through the whole accident in her head all the time. What can I do to help her? I want her to open up to me more. I think if she would just talk to me it would help her a lot. If she just cried instead of holding it all back it would help. She's one of those people who doesn't like to bother people if she needs someone to talk to. I want her to go out more and for her to get her life back on track. How can I be there for her more and how can I help her through this?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 Now this is a good question. Perhaps it will take some time for her to open up and release the tension. I think you should try to visit her every day, hug her, do small but important things, bring her something that you know she likes, and, perhaps more important, being around her and help her with anything she might need. If you show up every day, even if she won't talk, she will feel your support and will feel happy to have you around.
I wonder if you can suggest to watch a movie at home, or some activity that won't affect her wrist and might make her laugh for a little while.
I commend you on your good heart and your interest in this girl. You want to show her your love when she needs it the most. Now you are a good man!
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