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*nique-angel
writes:[MODERATOR NOTE: This post was minimally edited for spelling and grammar to improve legibility.]I'm worried. Basically I'm a horny girl. I can't help it, I think I'm more horny than a guy. Anyway, I masturbate a lot, like in one go, 3 times and do it 4 days every week with my fingers and another thing that is not thick. It’s as thick as fingers… But when I do it, I'm tight.... But I was (making out) with my boyfriend and he said I'm loose and open. I'm still a virgin and I don't know how I can go back tight again. I'm confused.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 So he's had sex with a couple of girls. He's still not had so much sex that he could give you an informed opinion on vaginal size. Nor is he an OB/GYN.
Nor, it seems, is he a class act.
Thank God, he only insulted you. Can you imagine if you'd married him? Or become pregnant by him? His behaviour prompted you to get out before it came to that.
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reader, AskLadyJuJu  + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 since you want to wait until marriage it looks to me like hes trying to get you to have sex with him. This is why he is saying these things and the fact that he said "why bother if ur already open" (like why bother waiting for marriage) so i beleive this guy has no clue what hes talking about and hes not understanding that you want to wait until marriage.. i think you should move on and find someone who loves you for you and doesnt care about sex and excepts and respects the fact that u want to wait.
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reader, unique-angel + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
unique-angel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell im 19 hes 24 and he has done it with couple of girls to be fair. well what hurt was he felt randy last night we were talking but after he said i was loose..i was like bye...
then 2 mins later i ring back he was on phone to some one else. this i 1.30am! so prob cheatin on me
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I agree with the others. Your boyfriend is an insensitive dope.
Unless you had given birth your vagina should still be pretty tight. I've gotten 3 fingers in a virgin's vagina, so don't think twice about it. I'm sure your's will grip a penis just fine when the time is right. But its not the time now!
Dump him and move on!
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reader, quiet-echo + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
His opinion is not entirely objective. He had a goal in mind - convincing you to have sex. You handled it well, cut the conversation short and move on.
Please do not be hurt by this. You are not loose. Besides, at his age how much experience do you think he has that he would be considered an expert?
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reader, unique-angel + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
unique-angel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your replies well to be honest i was really hurt because he goes im not a virgin no more, basically i said i dont believe in sex before marirage wanna wait....
so then he says to me why bother because im already open i put 3 fingers in u and u was enjoyin it u wasnt in pain ( i was!but felt great)..so i just said bye phone down i wanted to cry lol
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reader, quiet-echo + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
He might have meant 'aroused' at the time, not loose in general.
Having a child will 'loosen' a woman up a bit, so unless you've done that, chances are, you're quite normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): How can he know you are loose? Really, the only way I know that women get loose like that is after giving birth. There is no way you made yourself loose by masturbating. He sounds inexperienced, and also not very sensitive. You should inform him that saying a woman is loose down there is offensive and many get hurt by it.
Why we get offended by that is a whole other topic, and it's really dumb, but anyway. He shouldn't have said that and I dont for one second believe you are loose. Perhaps he just doesnt know what loose really means, and thinks that as long as he can get a finger in it's loose enough or something.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 November 2009):
 Your boyfriend sound like a dork, ignore his comments or get a new one.
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