A
male
age
36-40,
*evil Crazy
writes:To cut long story short, I met this girl two years ago through a TV ad and I have recently met her again, shortly after her breakup with her ex. We maintained contact in between, but summarily our relations are a weird one. We can get along great, talking and everything. She has also confessed to me that she loves me and would want to be with me one day. However there's something about her that bugs me a lot. She is, suffice to say, highly temperamental. Below are a few examples:1). She would feel sad for an extended period of time, e.g. a few hours, if I reply her messages late or do not take the initiative to say 'I love you'.2). I am not a very expressive person, and she feels sad that my instant messenger nick is not mushy enough in comparison to hers.3). Prior to meeting me in person, she's always kind of trying to pull away and kept on saying she is 'fat and ugly'.4). When I finally went out with her, I could accept her looks and everything but after that, she was upset that I did not take the initiative to hold her hand. She told me she felt rejected. She even said she wanted to give up because 'I am not going to change'.5). She is very prone to saying 'I am not good enough for you'...stuff like that, when she clearly isn't what she thinks.6). She always expects me to be able to so-called 'read' her intentions and stuff. I tried to, but I usually prefer straightforward dealings. Then she accuses me of 'not getting her', 'hurting her feelings'.Any advices please? Honestly I find this woman (she is 20 by the way, and I am 24) very difficult to deal with, always getting highly upset when I 'failed' to meet her 'expectations' and stuff. Does she have some disorders or, possibly, extremely low self-esteem?In addition, it feels like I am somewhat under her 'control'. By her mood and words, that is. It seems like there isn't a day without her turning paranoid and stuff for even one minute.Thanks in advance for all the replies.
View related questions:
her ex, period Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): personally i think she is just a bit worried after her break up and wants somebody to replace him in a way she wants you tp be like him maybe he had a mushy messanger name she is paranoid that you will break up with her and has low self esteem after her break up she has been made to feel "fat and ugly" and like she's "not good enough for you" you need to tell her that you love her the way she is and your worried about her and your not going to break up with her hope this helped
|
