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writes:my fella and i have been together for 6 years, married for 3. during that time, he has run up huge phone bills to sex txt lines, had txt sex with women that he has met in his working day, had pics of a close family member on his phone and pics of himself ready to send off. each time i have confronted him and he always has an excuse, it is never his fault. he has chipped away at my trust and respect for him till there is nothing left. does that mean that it is the end of the road for us, how do i get back the feelings that i have lost. if anyone out there can help with some friendly advice, i would be very grateful!
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 I think it may be nearing the end of the road for you two. He's blatantly doing these things in front of you, and behind your back. I'd bring up something about respect, but he obviously has none for you, and a minimal amount for himself. If he can't change, I would strongly suggest pulling over and getting onto a different road, lol.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (25 April 2008):
 You've got to talk seriously to him - preferably waving the phone bill under his nose at the same time so that he doesn't deny it.
"Huge" phone bill? Really huge? Huge in relation to your available incomes, or merely huge in relation to the rest of the phone charges? Actually, it's important to put it into perspective - is he looking at it as no more than he might spend on a hobby or an evening at the pub?
I fully understand how upsetting (and annoying) it is for you that he is doing this, but sex text lines doesn't need to be the end of the world nor does text sex with whoever it happens to be. It's quite likely he sees it as no more than a game - you don't, and quite rightly too, so if that's the only big problem then you should be looking for his reasons for doing it and dealing with those, not thinking about leaving him because of it. Time to try and spice up your sex life with him, maybe? And quite definitely time to let him know that he can't go on doing it. It's positively disrespectful to you, and in all probability he simply doesn't understand that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): To be honest, if he can carry on doing that knowing that you not only no about it but that it hurts your feelings then that just goes to show how little respect he has for you. Unfortunately hun I think you need to call it a day. You dont deserve to be a conveinience for the washing and ironing and then left to pick up the bills while he is having text sex with other women, why would anyone settle for that - in my books, it may not be physical but its still cheating.
Do you want to try and make it work?If the answer to that is yes then I guess you could call your phone provider and have a ban placed on 0800 or whatever they are numbers, I know you can have bans put on certain numbers if you want to because youngsters could be calling them.You also need to have a serious chat and make sure you are clear about the consequences of his actions.
I would be interested in his excuses if you want to private message me....Im not quite sure how he thinks he can get out of that. Someone else using his phone?
Honestly darling, why not get rid of this guy, he is bringing you down, you need someone that makes you feel good about yourself. Take care x
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