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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend had an affair with his brother's wife 3 yrs ago before we were together. He still talks to her because she is in the family. He say he loves me and wants to be with me. We get along very well; however, we do argue over his relationship with her. Can our relationship work?
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reader, AngelEyes420 +, writes (6 February 2007):
I would find it really hard to trust a guy that would do that to his brother as well. On the other hand, you must really like him a lot, and want to believe he really is a good person. Most people have more good than bad, and you're really putting yourself out there for him. I say, if you're gonna be with him you have to accept that this is a part of the package. Accept it, deal with it, but do not let it fester and poison your self esteem. Jealosy is a waste of time and will make things worse for the 2 of you. and keep it a separate issue from every other aspect of your relationship, dont let it come up randomly in arguements.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 It can but you need to accept that because theyre family, it's inevitable that they're going to talk. I understand how hard it is but it's not like he has a choice here unless you plan to make him pick between his family and you, which personally I wouldn't do because a it's not fair b he might not pick you. Talk it through with him and tell him you understand he has to speak to her but that it makes you insecure and you'd like it if he could be sensitive to that. Hopefully that should sort things out for you both.
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