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writes:So I have been dating this guy for 3 weeks. At first he called,text, etc all the time. We went on a date almost every night and he has even told his family about me (he wanted to invite me to a family function...but we had only been on one date at the time). The next week I barely heard from him. He had been out of town during the week for work plus a bachelor party but resumed his calling, texting routine over the weekend and we ended up hanging out. During that time I made a flirty comment about him owing me a massage for standing me up for one of our dates...he responded .."maybe a high five!". However our weekend date went well. So this week, communication has been rare, with me initiating contact. I also must add that as far as physical contact there has been nothing more than several sexually tense hugs. When we to hang out or talk its great...lots of eye contact, laughing, no awkward moments. He also has a tendency to try to take care of me (i.e. make sure my car is working okay). However, he has also revealed to me that he has some confidence issues. But with this lack of communication I'm not sure whats going on...is he still interested?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone that offered me advice. Turns out I'm just crazy! My turmoil led me to email my guy, he emailed me back saying that he definitely is interested but just got a new work project and is also still learning how to date after having recently gotten out of a relationship. He wants us to move slow so that we build a strong foundation first...before rushing into things. I am happy with the result!! Thanks again everyone!
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Yes, it is rather confusing!! I agree!! are you sure he knows you like him as much as you do? he is not giving much away - but the bottom line is ,to find out , as the other answer states - jusy back right off, and see what happnes. Don;t be too quick to reply to his texts calls either - make him wait. he may be on an ego/ attention trip. Just go cold, and see what he does, you will get your answer over the next few weeks.
If he's not sure he wants to date you - cut your losses. and move on. Nat MAriex
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Maybe. Stop chasing him though. If he's not reaching out to you, don't call or text him. Right now he is the one who should be doing all the initiating.
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 yes, but apparently you must slow down your move if you dont want him to pull away from you.Reduce your initiation to contact him..it makes him stuck with you ;)Good luck!
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