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writes:Someone please tell me why I can't seem to get my husband to Love me like he used to ? ....We have been married 32 years,since I was 14 years old and we have 3 beautiful children. My husband started having affairs after we were married 2 years. The first affair was with my niece of all people which should have been the end of the road for me but I loved him so much.Since this time he has repeatedlyhad affairs and even at one time was caught with my nanny.And I continued to stay and beleive him that he was sorry and would never do it again.Now I had someone walk into my home a few weeks ago and tell me they think he is their father after 27 years.Where is this going to end and how much more am I to take? He is constantly hugging on girls and ladies in general , he never hears me anymore and I'm just a bed partner the way I see it simply to protect our youngest son of 15 years. Please I know alot of this is my fault for staying , but how do you change how you love someone and how do I after all the pain still feel this way? Please help me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I have never been in this situation but from people i kno they said that it is the best feeling in the world when you finally get away from the asshole who has been cheating I think you should dump his ass after what he has put you though though out the years just let him go and find somebody else
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reader, Fade878  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 You know he is a serial cheater and you stayed. Why is it bothering you now? Because of the other child/person?
I don't understand why you felt the need to stay with him? Afraid to be alone? Money and comfort?
Sometimes, people will look at all the benefits that are gained, and will turn a blind eye to such things as cheating.
Have you ever thought to get counselling? Was your Dad a serial cheater? Why are you so comfortable with his affairs?
If you honestly believe you cannot endure any more pain or trauma...you will leave.
You know yourself better than anyone.
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reader, Emilysanswers  + ♥, writes (16 April 2008):
Do you not think your 15 year old sees how your husband treats you? Do you want him to go off thinking that is how marriage should be?
Tell your husband you want out. There is nothing left for you as things are. Talk to your 15 yearold and your other children, and explain everything, be honest with them.
As for his possible other child, that's his problem. He can get a DNA test and sort it out himself.
You can get over this, but you need to stand up for yourself and change your future.
Good Luck!! xx
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