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*ativeOne85
writes:There's a guy that I dated in 9th grade in high school for about a month. We were kids then and not knowledgeable of what a relationship was so we went our seperate ways but I have always felt very drawn and attracted to him...like he was the one. Two years ago, he reached out to me but I was in a relationship at the time. I still liked him then and never stopped thinking about him and prior to him reaching out we experienced all these weird coincidences like being in the same place. I've been single for about two months from a different relationship and I contacted him because I felt like I needed to. But When I went on his web page it says he single but his baby's mother writes comments on his page saying she loves him and they'll be together forever. Do you think I should pursue this guy or that its meant to be?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 September 2010):
 You know once I was around your age when I reconnected with someone from high school and it ended in a one night stand. (He was a navy guy) Not saying that could happen to you. I'm going to point out a few things here..
-Not all guys change their relationship status on Facebook when they're in one.
a. They don't want the attention and everyone asking who they're with.
b.Even though it's a few clicks of the mouse, they still refuse to change it so they can flirt with whomever they please on Facebook. (Do note on this one, sometimes "in a relationship" status doesn't stop some girls)
-He has a child and is contact with the baby's mother
a.You risk baby mama drama because it's looking like the mother will always be in his life due to the child they share together.
b. From the posts on his wall, it looks like they are still together. Or maybe she's one of those psychos who thinks they're still together when they're really not.
Now I would think about the points here, chances are they're still together. But it couldn't hurt to ask, curiosity would kill me too. However, I'm betting they're still together but he's going to tell you they're not and she's just crazy. Seen it happen...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 September 2010):
I think if his baby's mother is saying she loves him and they'll be together forever, it's best to stay well away.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (9 September 2010):
 well you could start talking to him, I'm sure he'll let you know if he's interested, single or not.
However, personally I think if he has a baby with another girl and she's interested, maybe I'm too nice, but I wouldn't want to wreck someone's chances of being a family.
However, that might not be the case. I'd talk to him and get your answer straight from him.
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