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writes:I have a question for the guys on here. How often do things pan out? I mean, you meet a girl you like, you get her number. You text a little then nothing happens. I'd like to know how often this happens to other men because lately this has been happening quite often to me.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (31 January 2012):
 unfortunately, your question is hinging on your communication style. Today, i got 3 numbers and got dates lined up fro thursday and saturday. I would say about 40% for me i go on dates with, from people i walk up to. The main reason why i do not go out with the rest of them, is because they are not single. Every now and again a legitemate possibility for a date is screwed up in the texting or whatever. Anyway, communication is the determining factor in how you do it. So, for me, with my relative understanding of how to communicate with women, I have so far had luck with getting dates about 90% of the time with single women.My luck with getting to have sex is about 50%. I have one woman that I am seeing physically a couple of times a week and then I have a woman that i may do the same thing with. Slowly, as time goes on, I will eventually phase them out of my sexual life and find someone who is interested in having crazy sex all the time vs sex some times, that is also attractive.First work on your communication and your approach. Make it simple. Don't do stupid pick up artist bs. Engage them with a question not about them, like, "where is building F". Then, as they are looking for building F, or whatever it is you are asking about, tell them, "I know where building F is, I just wanted an excuse to talk to you." My name is vincenzo. Shake her hand, and she will give you her name. After that, simply ask her if she would be interested in getting together for a cup of coffe some pool, or anything else that is simple. Then, if she accepts, she gives you her number. If she does not accept, then you obviously cannot go further. When you get her number, text her whenever you want, not 3 seconds later, but not 3 days later either. Text her about an hour or so later with the times you are available within that week and you should generally get a response, and you make the plans. Following this format, you will get numbers from the majority of the women that are single, and you will get dates with the majority of them.Following bad communication, you will get 0%.Your problem is you text but don't get to the point. They don't care about that. Avoid as much communication as possible until the actual date. When you make plans for the date, within 0-5 days, say, "see you then" and then confirm the day before if they are still able to make it. If they say yes, you are golden, and they like you. If they say no, most likey you are out of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012):
I have found that it's easy to get a woman's number these days. Much easier than it used to be. This is because they want you to text. They don't really want to have a conversation or to be asked out. It's sort of a safe continuation of the courtship. However, if you try to take it to the next level (a date) then there's a whole other vetting process at that time. I would say that it happens pretty often - at least half the time. What's your success rate?
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reader, Solidus +, writes (27 January 2012):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question i'm not asking about methods of communication, just curious as to out of a random number of women courted by the individual man how many of these become fruitful relationships. For example lets say a man gets the number of five women how many of those go the distance.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 January 2012):
 I guess it depends on your texting as well, WHY not just call and actually have a conversation?
I know a lot of people your age and younger think that you can actually carry on a relationship via text, but honestly, I don't see how you really get to know all the nuances of someone through texting, specially if one person either spells horribly or uses a lot of abbreviations.
Next time, pick the phone up call her, see if she wants to meet for coffee or a movie or something. Face to face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): A high dropoff rate is perfectly normal. When I'm single if I ask 10 women for their number, I will get a few. Of every 10 women who give me their number, I will only end up going on an actual date with a few. It's pretty similar when it comes to second dates, too. I'd say maybe 1 out of 3 women that I'll go on a date with and actually want to see again will agree to a follow up date, the others either disappear or start blowing me off.
The key to all of this is knowing it's a numbers game. The more women you approach, the more will give you their phone number, and the more numbers you have the higher the odds of getting a date are. That's just life as a single guy in a world where women can be selective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): I've given guys my number for the sake of not making a scene, and then ignored their texts or pretended it was the wrong number. I know it's mean, but I don't know what else to do when someone puts you on the spot like that. However, I've also had this done back to me so I think it must be fairly common, there isn't much you can do if the person isn't interested I suppose.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (27 January 2012):
be more aggressive. That is your problem. You need to not bore them to death by texting and not having the balls to ask them out in person.
You have their interest, which is why they give you their # instead of taking yours. After that, you gotta keep it.
Texting for a long time to get to know someone is not the key.
It is like a sale. Once you get the sale you get the product out the door. Keep it moving and take it to the next level.
Meet up in person, date, etc.
Communication is 7% what you say 38% tone and inflexion and 55 % body language.
You are giving these women 7%, and most likely you are not 100% spot on with them with the 7% that you do show.
Up their exposure to you, and you up your chances of reaching your desired level of intimacy with them.
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