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*abiie-114
writes:my boyfriend asked me if i wanted sex i told him i didnt not right now weve only been going out for 3 months.he said if i didn't have it soon then he will do something nasty!i've tried to tell my mum and his mm but they won't help!can you help me please? Reply to this Question
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reader, stina  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 ***FYI to everyone***
This question is posted again with more info here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-told-him-i-want-to-end-it.html
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Hunnie
My advice to you is to dump him. If he is pressuring you to do something that you dont want to do then he cant really love you. Talk to him and ask him wif he loves you, and if he says yes then ask him why is he pressuring you to have sex with him.
i agree with what azzy said. If you dont have sex with him he will "do something nasty" that is a form of bullying and you should not tolerate it.
Talk to your mother agian and if she doesnt listen to you talk to some one else.
Good luck xx
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reader, vickiii07 +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Hey babiie x Hes not worth it if hes pressuring you into sexif you do sleep with him he may just dump you and call you a slut.Because boys are not very nice at all !Most of them only want one thing.Talk to him and say if you respect me and love me enough you will wait.But if he doesn't then hes not the one !No guy deserves to treat you like that !and the thing he says that he will do somthing nasty shows hes not a very nice guy !
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reader, kellyO +, writes (18 June 2007):
 sorry. i meant you seem very smart. dont give in to him. Goodluck
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reader, kellyO +, writes (18 June 2007):
Hi dear,
I agree with stina here. I would like to suggest you forget about this guy. He obviously doesnt respect or care about you and what you want. I seem very smart,make sure u dont give in to his intentions at all, he will make u regret it. I feel he just wants to use you. Talk to your mum again.
Take care.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 June 2007):
 I can't believe your mom won't help, talk to her again and explain it very clearly what is going on. I don't know how old your boyfriend is but he can get into a lot of legal trouble about this. He is conveying threats. I certainly hope you have called it off with him. He is a first class jerk and maybe even a dangerous one. If your mother won't help you then talk to another adult, pastor, teacher, even the police. Go girl!
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reader, stina +, writes (18 June 2007):
Hi Babiie,
I suggest you ditch the creep and ignore whatever it is that he might say about you. If he is threatening you with violence, talk to your mother again and notify your teachers. If you get rid of this jerk and don't feed in to what he's doing, you'll walk out the bigger person in this. It will be a hard thing to overcome, I'm sure, but it's not impossible. Stay strong and leave this guy.
Take care.
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reader, azzy +, writes (18 June 2007):
babiie my heart goes out to you sweet i no how up set you must be but please try speaking to your mum or some one you trust, your boyfrind shouldnt be putting any pressure on you to have sex untill your comfortable and if he respects and loves you like he is telling you then he wouldnt be putting this pressure on you. whats the differnece on a man putting physicl pressure or mental pressure on some one it is still classed as rape in my eyes. please dont let him bully you and tell some one straight away if it helps why dont you write a letter to your mum and leave it on the kitchen table or bed in an envelope with her name on it ? im sure she will understand. gd luck x x
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