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writes:I recently just started dating this boy. It's been about a week we've been dating. The second day of our relationship he told me he wasn't good with relationships and dealing with it, as well he said he had commitment problems. When he said this I asked him if he had any intentions on cheating on me or doing things behind my back he said no so I'm not worried about that. But the thing is, I know he isn't comfortable with the whole relationship thing. How can I make him feel more comfortable and get him to be more open. And I know that he likes me because he's the one who made the first move AND kissed me. How can I put him at ease? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, pinkkitty23  +, writes (25 November 2011):
First, of course he's not going to tell you if he has any intention of cheating even if he did. It's nice when men are honest about the whole exclusivity of the relationship though rather then lying.
Honestly, I had commitment issues real bad and I've dated men like that to and have won them over. Best advice is don't pressure him it's only been a week. Just be, just have fun, when he wants you and only you he'll tell you. Just chill and get to know one another.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 November 2011):
 He is young, its only been a week, expecting a boy in your age group to know, understand or even want committment is almost the same as expecting a six month old baby to sing the Hallejulah Chorus ... in parts.
Forget about committment in relationships and just enjoy his company for now. There is plenty of time for all that other stuff.
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reader, happytime +, writes (25 November 2011):
A guy will always say he has no intentions of cheating or doing things behind your back. Nothing against you, but this is just how men are. The main thing in your situation is that you do not want to come across as desperate or clingy. If he has relationship issues, let him grow up a little before while you get to meet other people. Whatever his issue is, it's not worth your time to try and fix him, nor is it your responsibility. What you don't realize is that this guy is in a perfect position to take advantage of and use you. He can play the victim with you and you will fall for it because you are caring. Don't make that mistake. Find someone else, in my opinion.
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