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anonymous
writes:I'm 16 and my boyfriend is almost 20. I completely adore him but he smothers me so much, it's suffocating.He won't let me have friends unless he knows everything about them. He questions me every time I meet a male (friend or stranger) as to whether I fancy them. If I do, he cries, says he isn't good enough and begs me to reassure him for hours.Once when we were in a nightclub, another man (a stranger) tried to hold hands with me. My boyfriend went crazy, calling me a whore and a slag and an embarrassment, in front of our friends. There have been other times when he's called me names, eg. slut, but he always apologises after and says he's sorry and it won't happen again - but it does.I've tried hundreds of times to tell him he's suffocating me but he doesn't understand. He thinks it's normal. We agreed to a break so I could have some space, but nothing has changed, if anything he's gotten worse!What can I do? If it stays like this I don't want a relationship with him anymore.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Honey get rid of this waste of space !!!!!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 His idea of a 'normal' relationship and your idea of normal are obviously not in sync. He sounds like a control-freak to me, and I sincerely doubt he's going to change his behavior. As he has verbally abused you by calling you names, then apologized and promised it won't happen again, then he does it again, he clearly cannot control his anger. The distrust he lays on you actually is HIS problem, not yours, but he is doing his very best to make it yours.
I think you should end the relationship, and when you do, make sure you have some friends nearby for support, in case he really loses his temper. I don't like to think that he would, but it's better to be safe than sorry here. I frankly don't like the sound of him.
Take care, you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity and care and love. He is treating you with none of these....
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (2 July 2008):
 leave! have you not seen enough already? this man is jealous, abusive and lacks respect for you. this is not how your life should be-controlled by the insecurities of weak individual who doesn't listen.
has he changed since this break?
your wake up call has already come
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