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writes: Hey everybody, :)... or should it be :( First i have to say the person who thought of doing this site for people for free is like an angel, thank you. Well it's a number of questions, i'll through them all together. I'm someone who so much beleives that when you have good feelings towards anyone just let them out and i do that alot. It hasn't been that much of a problem, sometimes girls would be like "whats wrong with her" but after getting to know me i guess they don't mind it and they like it, thats not my issue cause all that matters to me are my friends and they know me, but it's guyz that i'm having a hard time with. Well my ex. always used to tell me to not let my things show that much, not to let my feelings out there so obviouse... i just can't get it, who would mind to know they are appreciated and loved or that they make you happy in anyway? So i used to tell him who ever cann't get me or miss understands me is somebody who isn't worth it and i'm simply not going to care for them any more.Is there something wrong with being very experssive? The problem is there is this guy... damn!...i so express everything i'm feeling towards him on the spot, i just soo cann't hold back with him, he is soooo cute (note: he's not my boy friend,we kind of talked about it before, didn't work for both of us)and when we're talking he is really nice to me, always there to help (when i could get a hold of him). I just want to stop calling and stop caring about him i don't know how to do it. The moment i stop calling or texting for a while, he'll through me a cute message and i just cann't help it, i hate that i feel like he is controling me. And besides i really don't want to deal with him anymore becouse if he thinks i'm not dating material then he thinks theres something wrong with me... and i don't think somebody would like to be in the company of someone whos presence reminds you of how you're not dating material. Him being arround sometimes or not answering my messages does that and it eats me up. So how can i stop dealing with him with out having him to think i'm weirred? and in the process of doing that how am i going to react with him when he calls to find out whats wrong with me?
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reader, Aminopia +, writes (11 July 2008):
Aminopia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx alot dearkelja :) i'll keep my distance and try to hold back a bit.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 You are what you are and you can't really change that. You could maybe tone it down some. Sometimes when it's over the top and all too often, it doesn't seem genuine.
Regarding the guy who responds to you only when he wants to and who doesn't consider you dating material (did he say this?) I think you need to stop contacting him, especially if you really want to be his girlfriend. But maybe the reason he is hot and cold is because he likes the chase. When you don't communicate for days at a time it makes him wonder if you "still have it for him" or maybe he truly misses you. The two of you should have a mutual conversation about what each of you wants out of the relationship. If he can't be the partner you want then you need to put more balance into your relationship (you stop giving him so much attention.) If you truly are hurt by being with him then I do think the best thing to do is to distance yourself until he doesn't affect you like that anymore.
He wont think you are weird if you are just honest with him.
Good luck.
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