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writes:I've been with my perfect match for about 4 and a half years now. Im totally head over heels in love with the guy and i could imagine a future with him no problem. The only thing stopping me is Fate ;His parents have decided to move and live in France and because of his age, he has to move with them. He's leaving in less than a year and I'm desperatley trying to come to grips with it. Its breaking my heart and tearing me up inside. I understand the pressure hes under too- The pressure of leaving friends and family behind and the pressures of hurting his mum and dad if he kicked up a fuss about not going. I am completely over-the-moon with a long distance relationship- any type of relationship with him is like heaven. But I'm worried incase maybe he falls for someone else, dont get me wrong, i trust him , but i just know that any girl would love him, hes absolute perfection and i thank my lucky stars i've got him. Also im worried that he might never come back.. in the case of hurting his parents. And what if over time his love for me fades. :( ..Im sooo worried and anxious about it...it seems like its never gunna happen but i know the day wil lcome around... i just dunno if i can deal with the heart-renching heartache when it does ...Help Ladies and and Guys 3 3
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reader, MissesConfused  +, writes (24 July 2009):
People have said for years that absence makes the heart grow fonder. If he cares for you, then he wouldn't let the odds between you two. It is possible for two people to maintain a long-distance relationship. Perhaps if you are meant for each other, then things will all work out. Try talking to him about it and see what he thinks about.I hope things work out for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): Awe I'm sorry to read about this. I can understand you are worried and things will now become harder for the future...but...really and truly it only looks hard now. If you love him so much, soon you will realize you can be with no other and he is the one for you. You are worried about him falling for another girl but maybe you two can have a long distance relationship so he will know what he has. He doesn't rly need to move back right? You can move to him as well I'm sure. When you guys are done with school just move to each other. If you keep the love you have for him in your heart and always remind yourself why you love him, then what seems like problems and walls turn into mere humps in a road.
When I was in my long distance relationship we talked for...hrs and hrs everyday. Skype is amazing ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): You sound very grown up and realistic for the age you are. It's impossible for anyone reading your email to say how he feels about you, but if he's been with you such a long time it sounds like he thinks a lot of you.
You don't say what your plans are for your own future, or whether you have discussed with your parents the possibility of going to France yourself, or how you get on with his parents. Would they let you live in their house as a paying guest for instance, if you could find the money? May be worth chatting to all concerned and see what is possible, if your boyfriend would like you to go along.
Bonne chance (Good Luck), hope it works out for you.
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