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writes: Okay, so I have been asking advice on this blog for a while now, so some of you may know me. My ex and I started talking and hanging out again, because the truth came out about what had been the major problem in our relationship. He told me yesterday that he is losing his sex drive, and that it has nothing to do with me. He says that at first he wanted to place the blame on me, indicating that maybe my vagina was too big for sex. (Which I now know (thanks to many of you who answered my first question) is impossible. I am very petite) He now realizes it has nothing to do with me. He says I am the hottest girl he has ever been with. Just yesterday, he was staring at me in the shower. He enjoys seeing me naked, no doubt. He is not gay if that is what some of you are thinking. These are his symptoms: He can get an erection, and can achieve orgasm, but he says it is not as intense as it used to be, and it either happens really fast, or it takes forever. He says it is just flat now. He describes it like he is losing his sex drive. He says when he is looking at porn even, it has lost its spark. He insists that it is not me. He says it would happen with any woman. He thought at first his penis was too small. He measured it, and it is just below 6 inches, 4 3/4 in diameter. I found out this is just below average. He said he had trouble maintaining an erection while he was measuring it. I think he has a physical problem, and needs to go to a dr. We started doing research, and he applied for health insurance. He is only 27 years old, and didn't want to admit the problem at first. He is very receptive now to getting help, and is wholeheartedly letting me help him. I think this sexual problem clouded how he felt about me in our relationship. He said that it has been like this from the beginning. The first time we had sex was Oct of 2005. We split a month ago and now are talking again and taking it slow, though he referred to himself as my boyfriend a couple of times.. which is okay with me.. I love him. I guess I want to know if any of you out there have dealt with this or experienced this, and can tell us what to do, or a good doctor to see...we live and work in Manhattan. Any insight would be extremely helpful. Especially if any of you men out there have had this happen to you. Thank you so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): This guy lusts after you, hes unhappy because hes not in love with you anymore its his spark thats gone out, he will just frustrate you and make you feel that its your fault, sorry Ive been their, but didnt know it at the time , everykind of excuse exept the truth, not his fault he needs to get in touch with his feelings, and move on to find love.
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