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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I work in a small company, with a ration of only eight other men including myself. I met my girlfriend at a work related function, as she herself use to work there until only a few months before I started.I sensed a curious vibe from my male colleagues not long after I began officially seeing my GF. I bought this up with my her, and she admitted to having slept with two other of the seven men, though she would not tell me exactly who they were. This has really upset me as now I have to attend work everyday having to imagine who they might be and what has happened. I feel like some kind of statistic now, where everyone else at work knows more about the mutual history of my relationship with my GF than I do.Usually I don't care for my partner's past, though this seems quite different my having to face it everyday. This is eating me up. I do love my GF, though since finding this out has made me question our relationship. I feel slowly becoming less attracted to her as a result, this I really hate. Until this all happened, it was the best relationship I've had going for some years and it seemed special. Though now it seems tainted.I really don't know what best to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Most men are hard-wired not to like being with a woman that has also been with some of his peers. It's nature and it's normal so don't feel ashamed of yourself for feeling this way.
You may just have to leave her. This isn't what you want to hear but I am telling you the unpleasant truth. Your feelings won't go away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): i think if you really love her, you should be with her, and forget about her past, because everybody got some skeleton in trheir closet, its either be with her or leave her alone.try not to think of what she did, and if oit comes in your mind, tell it to go away.
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (14 September 2009):
 everyone has a past, everyone has made mistakes.
she probably doesnt want to tell you who these men are, because shes embarassed and ashamed of what she did back then.
i think if you let her past get in the way, your not ready for this relationship because if you were youd be able to see past this and accept her for who she is , including what past she has.
either get over it, or get over her, but dont string her along, and always be honest about why u make the decisions to choose to make. (in other words, tell the truth if you dont wanna make it work, and why) good luck
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