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30-35,
anonymous
writes:so i started seeing a girl as friends id heard a lot about her ( she's easy,been with this person,been with that person etc etc) but i didn't care because i make up my own mind about people and me and this girl got on great so after about a month of innocently seeing each other as friends (nothing sexual happened) we hugged,held hands and got close but it was always innocent anyway....so i ask her on a date,we go 4 it and its going great till she tells me she sent sum1 topless pictures a couple of weeks ago....i admired her honesty but i was literally like WTF...so anyway we went back 2 hers got a bit close and had a kiss etc but no sex (i didn't want to rush) so anyway the pictures diet get brought up again but in the back of my mind i was really getting wound up.so then i ask her out and we start going out (i was suppressing being angry bout the pics) we went up 2 london 2 c a band got kinda drunk while we were pissed she said she thought the guys in the band were hot (why would u say that 2 ur boyfriend) and she said she was still upset bout her ex ....so i split up with her on the way home and i was just like look i can't do this.but like a twat we got back together and gave it a go as time progressed things started 2 eat at me (she had pictures on her walls of her and her friends on nights out but when i found out about people she had one night stands with etc were in the photos i got angry.(wouldn't any guy?) so anyway then we started to argue about the pics she sent just before our relationship started (going she sent sum1 topless pictures made me question all the rumours and things people had told me about her) also on her Facebook there was a topless picture of her on holiday in tenerife which again pretty much crushed me....so we argued and i basically said why do u treat urself like shit and let people use u etc etc and she started 2 cry and said because she's never felt loved i felt bad and all talk of that manner was dropped 4 awhile.just 2 set the scene i paid 4 everything i sent her flowers 2 work regularly and bought her many spontaneous presents (i wanted 2 treat her like a princess (cheesy i no).anyway so a year down the line of our relationship i started being abit of a nob making dick head comments about the photos etc etc we split up and got back man times etc etc etc and eventually we split up (i dumped her) within 3 weeks she's already in a new relationship she's emailed me and admits she still has feelings 4 me and that sum of the feelings will probably never go away (bit harsh on the guy she's with) I'm just focusing on re building my life and being happy and adequate with my own life etc etc anyway i just wanna get peoples opinions because i did say and do sum nasty stuff and constantly break up with her but i was also really decent at the same time when we split up she sad I've changed her and that she would never be slutty again etc etc so just way peoples opinion to summariseshe sent topless pics to sum1 while we were seeing each othershe had a topless picture on facebokshe had a reputation 4 being easy(slutty)we had 2 sti scares due 2 her previous actions (luckily i am clean)she had pics on her wall of her with friends (many people that she slept with.i was harsh said sum bad stuffsplit up with her a lotignored herwas moodyangry etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): Doc H here
Another excellent thread would tell you the answer: NO- you were right.
-if you aren't comfortable or happy with a partner for ANY reason (even entirely your own views)- ending it IS the right thing to do.
Unless you'd rather be miserable with someone you don't really like that much- when you could have been looking for a new, nicer partner (or readjust your own dating views- both are valid).
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBTW i wouldn't jus be a nob about sum1s past its just because it was all right in front of me
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