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writes:HelloMe and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for almost a year. We both love each other but her parents don't accept me. I come from a "well off" family. Not breaking the bank money but enough. She comes from a horrible council estate. From the moment I met her folks, I've been perfect. I haven't been rude or offensive. And i'm always saying thank you and i always talk to them in a perfect manner. But they make comments about me and always ignore me. My parents love my girlfriend just as much as me, but the only issue is them. My girlfriend understands and is always trying to defend me. but i understand she cannot choose me over her family. Why are they doing this? How can i try and talk to them?My mum always to me to say thank you, so Thanks.
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reader, porkchop.xo  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 I'm thinking maybe the problem isn't your manners. You seem to be polite, but maybe they don't think you are sincere? This may be kind of rough but the way you say you come from a "well off" family may be the problem. Money doesn't make a person, the way they act through words and actions does. If you have in your mind that your family is superior because they make more money than your girlfriend's family then chances are her family knows you think that. You can be the most polite person ever to their face but behind their back you have thoughts that you are better than them they aren't going to like you. I have no idea if you are like this but it could even be subconsciously shown by facial expressions you don't even realize you are doing. Also have you ever mistreated your girlfriend? or friends of her family? maybe word got out and they already have an impression of you before they even met you. No idea if I'm right but all i can advise is watch how you act, physically with expressions and your thoughts, although you may not say it people can usually tell what you are thinking by body language.
Also being extremely polite all the time can come across as fake and they may feel like you are not showing them the real you.
Hope you work it out!
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reader, gina h  +, writes (25 July 2008):
No matter who she with they will behave the same way,unless they prefare someone straight outta jail. Your girl is good and its not her fault so stay by her like she has done with you.I think they are jealous and feel inferior to you. They need to realise your potential.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (25 July 2008):
Well have you asked your girlfriend? Are you sure that you just THINK they don't like you? Ask her and see if she even says anything. If she doesn't give you anything because she wants to spare your feeling or because there really is nothing wrong, then maybe you can elaborate a little more on what kind of "comments" they make. They may ignore you because they may not be people-persons--then again I'm not there to see what happens. Do they ignore you when you talk to them? Do they just not talk to you?
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