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writes: Hi, I have been living with my fiance for 3 years now. She has a son of 5 years.lately he has become impossible, not listening, back chatting etc. The strange thingis that he has always exhibited such good manners and behaviour. This past weekendhe spent with the grand parents and uncle. Out of the blue he said he did not want to come home. He has told them that I hitand abuse him. I may be strict and have rules but I have never lifted my hands tohim. The in-laws do not approve of me and his comments to his mother may indicate he hasbeen prompted. He claims that I don't love him, that he does not want his mom to bewith me. So my fiance has now moved out, we are busy selling the house andeverything is failing horribly. She is devastated but claims her first priority isher son.How do I go about dealing with this as I don't want the relationship to end. I feel that she may be scared that the reklationship wont last and is preparing for the wordt. Pleasehelp!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): If it is true that you have never physically abused your fiance's son, why is your fiance blind to this fact? She's been living with you for 3 years, surely she knows your character by now. She knows what you're capable of, and what you're not capable of. True the family may not approve of you (I have no idea why) and true kids can be cohorsed into saying and believing all kinds of things.
One thing is for sure, you cannot force your fiance back into the relationship if she and her family believes you have been abusing her son. Counseling for all of you might help.
Best of luck.
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