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writes:Hi there.Was after a bit of advise.Ive been with my partner for a bit over 6 months now and were good friends before that.We both came from previous long term relationships and are fairly grounded into knowing what we expect from a relationship and what we think will make it work.My problem begins with my partner still being friends with her ex - which dont get me wrong i do encourage and think is healthy (I still speak to my mine.)Lately however I have noticed that she is quite hesitant and guarded about seeing her ex, that and he calls her at intimate times of the evening (eg. while we are sleeping.) - she does not hide this, but she never talks to him while I'm around.She has however indirectly lied about his calls on occasion. (said shes not sure who it is, or not answered at all.)I know that there is still some interest from the ex, but so far from what I know there have been no advances.I share a strong relationship with my partner and have open communication, about most things.However warning bells are going off and I'm wondering if I'm being paranoid/insecure or if I should be reading into this more thoroughly.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 I think what it basically comes down to is do you trust your girlfriend? I'm not surprised you don't trust her ex and equally it wouldn't surprise me if she didn't trust yours, but the truth is that neither of these things matter in comparison to your trust for each other. Maybe you should suggest she turns her phone off when you're sleeping just so you can both have a good night's sleep although obviously don't make it sound like you're discouraging her from talking to him.
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