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writes:help! should i take him back?I broke up with my ex 2 months ago, and still can't get him out of my head and love him to pieces, we where together for a year, then he decided to steal my jewellery worth thousands and sell it, to pay a debt off he owed to his auntie. Obvioulsy I kicked him out and changed my number, but he kept constantly ringing and texting my cousin, saying sorry and that he loves me. Two days ago I called him to talk and he says he doesn't understand why he did it and that he can't live without me. He rings and texts me constantly every minuite of the day. What should I do? I just really don't want to get hurt all over again and my family will never speak to me if I take him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): He stole from you. You will never be able to trust him. Do you want to live like that?
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reader, KittenSocks +, writes (21 October 2008):
 No! No! No! If he stole once he'll steal again. He has not just stolen your jewellery, he has stolen your trust. If he really loved you he'd have told you about the debt and perhaps asked for your help. Was he spending money with / on you while you were together? If he was, he should have told you that he had to spend less because he was trying to pay a loan back. Honesty is always the best policy. He says he doesn't know why he did it - yes he does. He was either worried that if he told you about the debt you would think less of him, or he wanted to stick his head in the sand and pretend the debt didn't exist, or he didn't care about having the debt until it became critical to repay it ... and then he just used you. It takes some nerve to steal something personal from another person ... that and not caring too much about their feelings! Try to forget him and move on with your life. Better to suffer some hurt now than risk being hurt more and again later.
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