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writes:Well...This is something that I don't know how to deal with.How do I do the right thing?There are two girls who I like.The first one I am really close to. She knows how I feel about her. Thing is though, she never rejected me as such, and I decided for myself that it was best not to pursue anything. (oh we are in university together).The second one I don't know that well yet, but I believe there is a good chance we could hit it off. She's really lovely and we seem to be getting on ok, and she knows I like her.I believe that given the chance we could have a great chance at a relationship. I think she's sweet, lovely, attractive, kind, everything that I could want from a partner.But my friendship with the first girl could cause a problem. We are close as I say. And since starting the new term we have spent a lot more time together than last year. And I realised after spending a couple of hours together yesterday that I REALLY am very deeply attracted to her.I just feel that it might not work, and more than that she will only be around for another year as she has to take a year abroad.I am really confused. I don't know what to do. Advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know what I have to do now.
If I don't do this I KNOW I'll regret it.
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reader, lazyman87 +, writes (10 October 2009):
i feel you're in a similar situation to me with your friend. i'd ignore the one you barely know, it's probably lust not love, lust doesn't last.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-in-best-friends-for-life-territory.html
this is my question, and 'candleman' provides an answer you may find helpful.
good luck mate.
ps i hope we can link in answers.
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reader, S.Z.S911 +, writes (10 October 2009):
 ...Thats hard, Ask this question to urself, who wudnt u be able to live without if they went away? A girl u hardly no but is quite sweet and nice or sumone u r deeply attracted to and r close to?good luck and hope u make the rite desicion
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): We can't really tell you who to choose, dear. Dating is a tough selection process, isn't it. All I will say, is you are 18-21 years of age and this is the time of your life where you should be having fun and exploring all sorts of dating situations. But if you feel you want to 'choose' one girl to date right now. Always choose the dating partner that you know the best, the one that shares your values the one you are best friends with, and the one you are very attracted to. I think you know which one she is...now get out there and do something about this.
But no matter which female you choose, remember dating is risky. That is the downfall and not all relationships make it. And some can last a lifetime. But sometimes there is heartache and hurt along the way. And you cannot stop it, if it occurs. You learn from it...that's what life is...a learning experience. So, just take the chance. Date the girl that you are attracted to the most. The one that makes your heart flutter. :) Make her happy and take it one day at a time. Good luck and enjoy the bounty of being young, loving life and having the world at your feet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): The one your close to I would keep due to the fact that you felt comfortable by telling her soo but b ware dont tell her everging cause it will be your undoing she'll know you are wipped
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