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Help!!! What are the pros and cons of having anal sex???

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Question - (10 September 2011) 6 Answers - (Newest, 1 October 2011)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend wants me to try anal sex. I am very open to something like this.

However I want to know the pros and cons of anal sex? It's a simple and short question, and help would be much appreciated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011):

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I had anal sex and took into mind everything you said and decided that if i done it correctly and safely it would be fine however, i didnt think of what it can do to your insides. Now i have internal hemmeroids and have to put cream up my ass. NOT GOOD.

But the doctor gave me some tips on how to make anal sex pleasureable and safe and im eager to try it again.

PS having internal hemmeroids is the most embarrasing and degrading thing ever. lying there naked from the waist down with your ass in the air as he wiggles various sticks and fingers up there. its awful

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011):

erm Pro you cannot get pregnant okay that's one for pro-anal.

con you can get fishers which are not going fishing with a fishing rod its tearing of the anus

con you can get a Prolapsed anus which it pretty much sounds like what it says on the can your anus comes out of your anus. feel free to Google image this. a warning your eyes may actually bleed

con there are also some wonderful bacteria inside the anus which then you can transfer to the vagina.

con It hurts.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (11 September 2011):

DoubleM agony auntYou can talk with your doctor about it - and should likely suspect to hear about long-term conditions such as internal and external hemorrhoids, diverticulitis, cancer, colon tearing, loose bowel syndrome (life-long leakage) and a number of other ailments. As the anonymous reader noted, the rectum and lower intestine are designed to excrete, not to be frequently penetrated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011):

I only see cons with anal sex. Penises and other things are not meant to go there. The anus is not meant for large objects. You can cause health problems, injuries and so on. Diseases such as hiv are more easily spread that way also. Just my opinion!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (10 September 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou CAN get pregnant... if the semen drips down into the vaginal canal....

he should wear a condom anyway so he does not get an infection e.coli is nothing to mess with...

PROS in my opinion... your man is very grateful for this.

cons: just about everything else.

I do submit to this with my partner now and then because he likes it and his penis is average size and not too uncomfortable and I have had experience in this activity and while it's not my preferred method of connecting to my man it's not that horrible for me either..

IF you are going to do it follow these rules:

bathe well

LUBE very very very well

lie on your belly with a pillow under your hips.

have him press his penis against your anus but DO NOT ENTER.

YOU are in control... YOU push back a little at a time till you are comfortable. he has to be PATIENT... you keep pushing back and WAITING...waiting waiting waiting...till you are ready to push back more... he cannot be in charge here... he has to wait for you to be ready

eventually you will push far enough and he will enter.. then the game can begin... he has to listen to you very well... if it HURTS stop. it will feel odd but it should NOT HURT...

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada + , writes (10 September 2011):

janniepeg agony auntPro: You won't get pregnant.

Pro: You overcome this fear and you see it not big of a deal. He will stop bugging you for it so much.

Pro: Both of you may feel pleasure. It could bring newer levels of intimacy.

Con: It's painful at first.

Con: Anal incontinence.

Con: You may have to give in next time even if you don't like it.

So don't pretend you like it if you don't.

I believe anal sex can bring me pleasure but so far I haven't opened up myself to it and my boyfriend never asked me again. I still have many years to go and maybe if we get really bored with each other we will do it again.

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